Suicidal thoughts - Who has had them? How did you cope?

United States
May 3, 2018 2:34am CST
It’s sad that nowadays it’s not a rare thing where people talk about ending their lives. To be completely honest, I’ve thought about doing it a few times myself but never expressed it to anyone. I also used to cut myself, not to end my life but as a way to deal with all the emotions that were bottled up. It was almost as if that the negative emotions flowed out of me while my blood did. But as you noticed I am referring to all that in the past tense. Recently, I’ve had days where I was depressed to the point where I did not even want to get out of bed. Instead of reverting to my cutting ways, I found other ways to cope. I go for walks, I bake, I paint and even cooking relieves my stress. For others, it’s not easy to get out of their heads and many go through with their plans of ending their lives. You may be wondering why I’m writing about this subject. Yesterday, my sister got a phone call from my nephew’s counselor. He expressed wanting to kill himself yesterday. When asked why, he said the stress of school and this one little girl picking on him makes him want to kill himself so he can have some peace. I told my sister that she needs to take my nephew for a walk and just let him talk it out. She refused. Said she is too emotionally unstable to deal with it. That she has her own problems to deal with before she could help him. When he got home today, he seemed his normal self so my sister said it was just probably something said in the moment. So my question is, do I let it go or do I take him out and get him to talk it out? That’s what I did when my daughter tried to cut herself with a pencil. For those that may have read my previous posts, you may remember that my daughter is not actually my daughter. She is my cousin but she is in my care now. Well, while she was in my mom’s care, there came a point where she tried to cut herself due to my mom having a conversation with someone she had met online. My mom was talking about sending another dirty video to another man while she was still in a relationship with my stepdad. I took her out for a bite to eat and then we went to a fishing spot we go to a lot. I had her talk it out and then we came up with other ways for her to cope. Thankfully for her, all she had to do was tell my mom why it upset her and then to write it in her journal. For alot of other people, they don’t have people that they feel they can talk to or have ways to cope so many end up killing themselves. Has anyone reading this ever thought of ending their lives or known someone that tried or succeeded? If so, how did you handle it? How did you cope?
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• India
3 May 18
These days kids hardly handle pressure in schools. I have heard same type of things here in India. We should make younger generations strong
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• United States
4 May 18
My daughter gets bullied by former friends. And I told her that they are just trying to get a reaction out of her and make her upset so she's been ignoring them. Now these kids want to be her friends again. I told her that most kids get bullied but the only way I got the bullying to stop for me when I was in HS was to confuse the bullies by agreeing with them. I didn't have any boyfriends in school and didn't tell anyone I had crushes so people assumed I was a lesbian. When confronted, I said, "Well, if I was, I still wouldn't be interested in you but as it is, I like men." The next day, I was a sl_t. I shrugged and continued onto class then during lunch the same girl asked me which was it. Was I a lesbian? Or was I sl_t? My response: "I like men. if that makes me a sl_t even though I haven't slept with anyone, then I'm a sl_t." She then asked me who I was most interested in. And I told her. I like men, not boys and that's all the school was full of. Then of course I was sleeping with my uncle's friend who was 6 years older than I was at the time. Kids will find anything to bully another kid about. And teachers do nothing to stop it until the parents intervene.
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• India
4 May 18
@CountryGirl31 True. For kids, it is difficult to manage and being bullied lose their confidence
@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
3 May 18
It is sad that it happens more now than it use to. Though shouldn't happen at all.. But I have depression, and although I have never actually wanted to die, I have said it many times due to the pain I've been in. And I have "cut" in the past. Though not real cutting through the skin.. just marks I guess to make me feel a different pain than I was in my head and heart. I luckily have a few friends to talk to, plus my mom and my boyfriend. I also use wanting to know my daughter when shes older as a reason to stay alive. And I'll blast music and bake, other times babysitting nieces and nephews helps cause mind is mostly occupied on them. Depends really. Sorry about both your cousin and your nephew. And honestly, I would talk to him. Your sister may not want to, which to me is very wrong as shes the parent and he should come first. But if she wont someone should. As better safe than sorry.
@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
4 May 18
@CountryGirl31 No one should feel that way, at home or at school. But I am very glad he felt comfortable to talk to you. kids need that one adult that will listen no matter what. That's her own fault then. And you doing things in your life isn't anything to do with her, if she wants to do those things, she should work for them.
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• United States
4 May 18
@Courtlynn I agree with you completely. She made me feel bad a few months ago because I bought myself new underwear lol. I bought a 6 pack for $7 at walmart. It was the first thing I bought myself since my birthday in september.
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• United States
4 May 18
I did talk to him and he told me that he's sick of being bullied by kids at school and he feels bullied at home. There are days when he gets off the bus and she yells at him for something he did days ago or didn't do. To be honest, I told him that her yelling at him isn't really about him doing anything wrong. It's more to have control over something. She has very little control over her life by her choice. She had back surgery and then ignored what the doctor told her to do so now when she walks "too much" by her standards, she says her back hurts. She's also gained a considerable amount of weight since her surgery. And I've learned that I should not talk about any plans I may have, whether it's buying a new bathing suit or hanging out with a friend because she cries that she can't do it. Doesn't have the money or friends that want to hang out with her. Tonight, I overheard her talking to her fiance on the phone and she told him that she's sick of my throwing my "perfect little life" in her face all the time. My daughter is having a bowling party this year again for her birthday as that's the only thing she really wanted for her birthday and a brand new recliner. The recliner was bought with a credit card and the bowling party is money I set aside months ago. Apparently, I am very good at hiding my struggles and emotions.
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@Jessabuma (31696)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 May 18
No, I have never thought of this, I love my life. We only live once so we should cherish our lives..