What would you do if your husband told you he was gay?

wow i would really be hurt...i'd wonder why he even bothered marrying me if he was gay and obviously didnt want to be with me and didnt love me in the way that i thought he did. i dont have a problem with anyone being gay but a husband is different..because you love them in a special way and expect to spend the rest of their life with you. it'd hurt me to know that everything i thought about him and the marriage was a lie..and that the marriage was over. but, at the same time, i know that coming out is a very difficult thing..and can sometimes be a long process of self-discovery. maybe he wasn't really sure if he was gay or not when he married me, but then again, he shouldn't have married me if he had any confusion or doubts about his sexuality...its not fair to me.

It would never happen to me.

i don't know

I would let him go, if he wanted to, but I truly know it would never happen, because he's straighter than an arrow.

I would let him go, if he wanted to, but I truly know it would never happen, because he's straighter than an arrow.

applaud him for coming-out and than ask him if he was joking! It would obviously hurt since I would know our marriage is over.

i would feel really down, misserable, very dissapointed. he would owe me an explanation, when did he became gay, was it before or after we got married.. if i really love him, then i would ask him if he would want to save our marriage, or he thinks that he couldn't become the man that i want to be. everybody have to move on..i think when time goes by, i'll get over him.

Wow! I would want to know after 16 years where the heck it came from!!!! But then I would be okay with it. We would still continue to be parents together. That would never change. But I would never sleep with him again! But if that was how he truly felt, after my initial shock and pain, I would be supportive. I would want him to be happy.

I would let him go, if he wanted to, but I truly know it would never happen, because he's straighter than an arrow.

i don't know if i would laugh ot cry

if my husband told me he was gay i would have a heart attack!! but seriousley i would feel decieved and lied to and im sorry but i would have to divorce him on the grounds that his lifestyle does not promote a healthy environment for me and my children, since he probably wouldnt be affectionate to me and cant really be in love with me so i would save my children from living that lie with him. he would be free to further explore the other side of his life...

I would be disappointed he never brought up before now but it wouldnt change how i feel about him or our relationship..I love my husband very much without conditions so if he were to tell me out of the blue that he is gay I say "all the power to ya! why didnt you tell me before now and can I meet him?"

i think it would be the biggest form of rejection there is!! that would be horrible...

id say HEY ME TOO!! lets get a divorce! :-)