Questioning me about Mother's Day........

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I love my Aunty. But the other week her questioning me to the point of her seeming like a smarta$$ was making me angry. Although I kept calm while talking, my heart started to beat really fast. Every year, our family gets together for lunch to celebrate Mother's Day. Last year I did not attend. I was sick of going to these lunches when I haven't got a mother to celebrate with. Yes I course I have my Nan and Aunty who are both mothers but it's depressing sitting there without my mum. So I decided that I didn't want to go. I have been to eeeeeeeevery single breakfast, lunch and dinner for every other occasion ( unless I was sick but did something to make up for it ) but this occasion, I took a stand and told everyone I was not going. Although they all told me they understood, including my Aunty, I have no idea why she was being a bit heartless towards me this year. It's so obvious why I don't wish to go ( my mum is no longer alive ) that is doesn't need an explanation. Yet she questioned me anyway. Aunty: "Are you coming?" Me: "No, I don't celebrate it." Aunty: "What do you mean you don't celebrate it?" Me: " ........ " Aunty: "Well I am a mother. Your Nan is a mother." Me: "Yes, but you two aren't MY mother. You both have children to celebrate your day." Aunty: "So if you had a child, you wouldn't let him/her celebrate it cause you don't?" Me: ".....No...that would be different." Aunty: "How? You just told me you don't celebrate it." Me: "YES! Now I don't. Because I don't have a mum. But if I have kids, it would be different." Aunty: "Well why can't you celebrate it now??" Me: "........" And that is when I froze. And thankfully she changed the subject and ok, although this is just text to you, I can assure you she had a tone that was annoying. I don't celebrate it! So what? Leave me alone and let me be. You don't have to understand....or pretend you don't. Last year she understood but now all of a sudden in-front of an audience she tries to be a comedian. She does that sometimes. Picks on you with serious things to be funny. Yet if she has you alone, she is understanding. It's weird and warped. Has anyone ever bothered you about something you didn't celebrate? How did you handle it?