She calls my mom arrogant

Indonesia
May 24, 2018 11:28pm CST
My mom retired from teaching 6 months ago. Today one of her friend came to visit, she also teaching at the same school where my mom used to work. She told my mom that Mrs.K (one of the school staff ) bad mouthing my mom at school. Then the reason Mrs.K bad mouthing my mom is because my mom lent her money almost a year ago and she haven't pay back till today. My mom remind her every month about the money when she still work, but she always finds reason to not give the money yet back. So when my mom finally retired my mom sends her text before the pay day to remind her again. But she still give many reasons, until last month when I had accident and had to have surgery, my mom texted Mrs.K again and told her that we need the money for my surgery. Mrs.K reply back very rude. She calls my mom arrogant and that my accident is a punishment from God for my mom. Like seriously? She is the one who in debt and have not pay any money back to my mom for a year, and she calls my mom arrogant? She even bad mothing my mom to other staffs at school. She always find an excuse to avoid paying the money back and my mom always let her slide. I'm so pissed and mad that someone treat my mom so rude. My mom is one of the kind hearted person I know. So our relatives and family recognize her kindness thats why they always come to her when they need help. Mrs.K tell everyone that my mom being so petty over little money. May be it's little for her, but for my mom who already retired it's a big money and to be exact what Mrs.K reffer as little money is about 4 months of her salary. My mom isn't rich but she has more than enough from my dad pension and her pension aswell. And my mom do not spend money for something not important, she save up for rainy days. I'm trying to convince my mom to go to her old school on pay day and to meet Mrs.K but my mom says no. She doesn't want to argue with Mrs.K at school. She wants to talk and solve everything in private with her. Her friend who come to visit will accompany her to go to Mrs.K's house this weekend to meet Mrs.K and her husband. I just hope Mrs.K's husband is a nice person because my mom doesn't like complicated argument.
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@jstory07 (134267)
• Roseburg, Oregon
25 May 18
I hope you mom will end up getting her money back. That is why I never loan money to any one.
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• Indonesia
25 May 18
I really really hope so. A year is a very long time. I only lend money to my siblings other than that I don't.
@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
25 May 18
I do hope that your mother gets her money back but I am thinking that she might not. That woman seems to not intend to pay the money back. It is a shame that your mother seems to be punished for being so nice.
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• Indonesia
25 May 18
@HazySue yeah.. sadly that when something like this happen it will affect both side. Their relationship won't be the same. But when this end at least one less problem to worry for my mom.
• Indonesia
25 May 18
I do hope she will get the money back. I told her to not lend anyone money anymore because there will always possibility something like this will happen again in the future.
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
25 May 18
@mrswhitfield Sad but true. People don't seem to be as trustworthy today.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
25 May 18
Your mother is a kind person. The woman just took advantage of your mum's good heart. It is too much for her to do that.
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• Indonesia
25 May 18
Yes, she taker her for grandted. She knows my mom hates making scene and arguing. I hope my mom won't let her get away easy this time.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
25 May 18
@mrswhitfield I hope so, too.
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@LeaPea2417 (36392)
• Toccoa, Georgia
25 May 18
I never loan money to anyone, because very rarely will they pay it back.
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• Indonesia
25 May 18
I don't except to my siblings because I know they won't do something as foxy as Mrs.K
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• United States
28 May 18
Your mom must have felt she would pay back. I hate to lend money and been saying no a lot lately.
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• Indonesia
28 May 18
Yeah... thats my mom's weakness..she could never say no if someone come to her for help. I don't lend money to others too, only to my siblings/sister in laws
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• Philippines
25 May 18
I hope your mom finds a common ground with Mrs. K's husband and that Mrs. K won't start a fight with her. Your mom has a good heart, and she is a good teacher as well because she wants to settle things in private rather than stirring up a scandal in public. I hope Mrs. K realizes what she's doing and stops it. It's not a good attitude to have as a teacher.
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• Indonesia
25 May 18
I do hope Mrs.K's husband will be on my mom's side. My mom has met him before at some school occasions and she said he is quite funny. I hope he is not kind of husband who afraid of his wife
• Philippines
25 May 18
Yes, I do hope for the same thing as well.
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@nonersays (3329)
• United States
25 May 18
I hope your mom is able to get her money back, but probably she just needs to write it off as being gone if the person has not paid back by now they probably never will.
@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
25 May 18
Mrs.K does not want to pay. PERIOD. If she does, or at least has a willing desire to pay her, she would have talked to her personally. So since her tactics is to tell people about your mom, it means she does not want anything to do with her or the payment. Maybe what you or your mom can do is to call her supervisor and tell them that Mrs.K owe her some money and that she is going there at a certain day and time to collect it.
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• Indonesia
25 May 18
Yep. She seems to have no intention to pay the money back. I habe talked my mom to go to school and meet the principal but she choose to meet the husband. Hopefully the husband is our answer.
@josie_ (9763)
• Philippines
25 May 18
Your mom has the misfortune of being generous to a fault. But I believe "what goes around comes around" and her generosity will be rewarded even if not necessarily through financial means. Hopefully the affair can be amicably settled and your mom's money return.
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• Indonesia
25 May 18
She is very kind that some people take her kindness for granted. I hope to hear good news tomorrow.
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• Kochi, India
25 May 18
Mrs.K is exploiting your mother's good heart.May everything settle without hurting your mother.
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• Indonesia
25 May 18
Yes,,, she takes advantage of my mom. We hope the same...