Silent treatment.
By Kandase
@Kandae11 (53696)
May 28, 2018 8:56am CST
Do you ever get the silent treatment from your spouse, or boyfriend/ girlfriend after a quarrel or major disagreement? I have heard of married couples who say not a word to each other for days after a quarrel.
If the boyfriend and girlfriend live apart - then the silent situation would be more bearable than if they lived together or were married. Even worse if the house or apartment is small - how very awkward that must be.
Have you ever given, or received the silent treatment? How would you handle such a situation? Would you think of making the first move towards reconciliation - even when you feel you are the one wronged?
Have you ever given, or received the silent treatment? How would you handle such a situation? Would you think of making the first move towards reconciliation - even when you feel you are the one wronged?51 people like this
53 responses
@DesirousDreamer (34780)
• Peoria, Arizona
28 May 18
I feel like being silent is good for at least a few hours, but if you give it for days, that is a little childish. Things need to be talked about. I always believe that no one should go to bed angry, so fix it before that.
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@DesirousDreamer (34780)
• Peoria, Arizona
29 May 18
@Kandae11 Yes, I love that saying! I never heard it put that way before
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
28 May 18
If I go silent its not good, there is a storm a coming.
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@marguicha (215929)
• Chile
28 May 18
I have always run away from people like that whenever I could. My mother did that to my father and I hated her when she did it. I think that it is an awful way of manipulating.
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@marguicha (215929)
• Chile
29 May 18
@Kandae11 I´m sure that there are worse things and that people have different personalities. Still, this is not nice.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
28 May 18
my sister stopped talking to me about 6-7 years ago and got her entire side of the family to snub me too - they maintain their stance to this day
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
28 May 18
@Kandae11 yes, he is my younger sister but she is married with three sons - all of who share her hatred towards me
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@Tampa_girl7 (49149)
• United States
28 May 18
I've experienced this maybe once or twice from someone, not my husband though. It's a terrible feeling.
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@Tampa_girl7 (49149)
• United States
28 May 18
@Kandae11 I think it's kind of childish.
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@popciclecold (35485)
• United States
28 May 18
I would be the one giving the silent treatment, he just would say things to hurt your feelings and that would be it for him.
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@popciclecold (35485)
• United States
28 May 18
@Kandae11 No, he felt like he could say anything to me, and 3 sons our feelings didn't count. It's bad to say we put up with stuff like that a long time. He called Sunday morning said he sorry. He was watching a preacher on Tv that made him see himself.
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@much2say (53944)
• Los Angeles, California
28 May 18
Thankfully this is not something Hubby and I do. But my father used to give the silent treatment to the entire family - sometimes up to a week - and I HATED that. He instilled a lot of fear in us . . . so when he did this, we just gave him his space until he came around.
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@Kandae11 (53696)
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28 May 18
I think that would be an awful atmosphere for kids. Back in the day we knew of a housewife whose husband began the silent treatment ( he would at times pick a fight) a few says before payday at the end of the month. - then she couldn't ask him for any extras and sometimes got less than the usual allowance.
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@allknowing (130184)
• India
28 May 18
Whatever the situation it always ended with "After the storm comes the calm after the calm comes the sunshine"
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@allknowing (130184)
• India
28 May 18
@Kandae11 When two people have to survive under one roof there is no other alternative
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
29 May 18
I am a person who is not afraid of confrontation ... I am always open to communication no matter how painful, I want things to be discussed and settled .... But if people keep going around in circles not wanting to settle the issues , then my last resort is to give them the silent treatment .. for good ...
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
30 May 18
@Kandae11 yes.. for good.. but they don’t think I’m serious..
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
30 May 18
Yes I have given it for sure. When I am angry I need time alone to let everything settle in and I would rather not say something I may regret so I do shut down,
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
31 May 18
@Kandae11 Not long may 15 minutes sometimes less.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
28 May 18
That silent treatment does not take 5 minutes because I cannot afford not to talk to my husband and so is he to me. 
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
28 May 18
@Kandae11 That is right. But I cant believe how others can take it for a day.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 May 18
When my hubby and I were in our earlier years, I am fond of giving him a cold treatment. It could go for days and when we talked it's civilly especially if it has something to do with our child.
I know that my silent treatment makes him so uncomfortable. So sometimes, I just simply talk to him already. He feels happy when I do that.
When I was already in my early 40's I avoid doing the cold treatment. I just let it go and forgive.
Our days together is not very much long anymore that's why. 
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@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
29 May 18
I received it in the past, not the best way to handle things.
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@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
29 May 18
@Kandae11 some times, you just need the time to think,silence, can be golden.
@JamesHxstatic (29302)
• Eugene, Oregon
29 May 18
No, we don't do that to each other, though I have been in relationships where I got that treatment.
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@acrogodess (994)
• Aberdeen, North Carolina
29 May 18
Occasionally we give each other the silent treatment. It is better than yelling incessantly
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@acrogodess (994)
• Aberdeen, North Carolina
29 May 18
@Kandae11 this is true, but sometimes in the heat of the moment is not the time to work things out.
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