How to make sure your son or daughter won't have body dysmorphia?
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32760)
Calgary, Alberta
June 26, 2018 11:05am CST
I notice the huge interest people have about my discussion regarding to the beautiful woman who thinks she is ugly despite of the fact she is not. What do you think parents should do so their children will be confident on their own skin and won't resort to surgeries?
Media seemed to be influential why many teens are insecure because celebrities have unattainable beauty standards.
Oh this is a clip of a very sexy and beautiful woman who also thinks she is ugly.
Kayleigh says she hates how she looks and is afraid others will judge her to be ugly. She claims she follows other women online; obsessing over why they’re p...
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@Starmaiden (9308)
• Canada
26 Jun 18
There is always something about ourselves that we don't like whether other people find it attractive or not.
The only thing parents can do is to teach their children to love and accept themselves as they are. Sadly, there are many parents out there who are the first to find something distasteful or "not perfect" about their own child and cannot bring themselves to love and accept it. That's where the self esteem issues begin.
(I speak from personal experience. I had a Narcissist mother)
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32760)
• Calgary, Alberta
26 Jun 18
It all starts at home. I also think half of my insecurities came from home while half came from school. I might have been more confident if my parents are more less perfectionist and if I didn't get bullied at school.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
27 Jun 18
Self-confidence is very important to a child. A confident child will like his or her appearance.
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32760)
• Calgary, Alberta
27 Jun 18
A confident child will also be more likely to succeed in life.
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You said it.
@jstory07 (148777)
• Roseburg, Oregon
26 Jun 18
You have to raise your kids to think they are beautiful and not to care what other people think.
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32760)
• Calgary, Alberta
26 Jun 18
I was thinking less media on early years. So they won't be awoken to unrealistic beauty standards.
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32760)
• Calgary, Alberta
28 Jun 18
Childhood is such a fragile stage that everything that makes an adult begins from their childhood and molded by childhood.
@mlgen1037 (29882)
• Manila, Philippines
26 Jun 18
That is the irony. Even if we on the outside appreciate their beauty, people suffering from that disorder do not see it for themselves. It is sad because they feel that way. I agree with Lucinda as everything starts from home. Our words and actions have an impact to children. When children think they are not attractive or good enough, they wallow in that believing that they are not good enough, even if they see they are beautiful or smart, they see otherwise. So for me, the best way to handle this is to constantly remind children of how much they are loved and valued. Teach them young.
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32760)
• Calgary, Alberta
27 Jun 18
Something must have really broken their self worth during their childhood. I think it is the parent's job to make sure their kid will have a self worth, self respect and wonderful disposition. I think a person with high self respect will never be bullied because bullies only target the weak.
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@mlgen1037 (29882)
• Manila, Philippines
27 Jun 18
@CaptAlbertWhisker I agree with you as it is every parent's responsibility to instill those to their children by the very time they are born until they are old enough to handle themselves. The problem is some parents lack that and they think that taking care of them is enough. No wonder why some children are bullied and bullies.
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@Jessabuma (31696)
• Baguio, Philippines
26 Jun 18
Just teach them to love themselves and to accept that no one is perfect in this world.
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@mlgen1037 (29882)
• Manila, Philippines
26 Jun 18
This is easy for you to say, Jessa, because as you said you love yourself and consider yourself as someone beautiful. People who are experiencing that do not see things the way you do so it is easier said than done. Put yourself in their shoes and maybe you will understand what they are going thru. They are honest enough to feel their imperfections despite the fact they are beautiful physically. They are real and do not need to pretend about who they are. This is not a simple disorder, this is psychological and telling them to love themselves will not suffice their feelings. Attention and appreciation is not enough to make them feel better.
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@ihasaquestion (8273)
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19 Apr 19
Surroundings play a part in shaping children's childhood, and that includes how they see and portray themselves in future when they grow up..It is the parents' role as much as the environment they are in.
