People are so confusing

Davao, Philippines
July 2, 2018 12:39pm CST
People are so confusing--at least those who are usually around me. When I was still young, I heard adults say, “each of us is unique”. But now that I’m grown up, adults expect us to be “not so unique”. So which the heck is it? You know, each of us has been put here on this planet for different reasons. Do you agree or disagree? Some people are to help certain individuals make big changes that influence humanity. Some to change situations throughout history. Some people are to remain anonymous but still have big impacts towards their society. There are those who are called to maintain the law, the peace and order. And then there are also those who are called to inflict chaos, panic, and pain, etc. So if we follow this idea that “each of us is unique”... it’s funny how people express their understanding of this concept now. And this is especially true when people would expect everyone to follow a certain standard or a pattern of how a person's life should turn out. And the pattern/standard is usually based on someone’s path (with the person being charismatic enough to gain a lot of people's awe and admiration) that lead him/her to his/her version of success. Won’t this then make it seem that each of us has only one track to walk through life? For example: If you’re male: you go to school, get good grades, have a high-paying and secure job. You also find yourself a woman to marry, get a beautiful house, have a kid or two and then if you can get yourself a pet as well. Keep working hard until retirement when you can finally relax and enjoy life. And if you’re female: you go to school, get good grades. If you're still single, get yourself a job to pay for your daily expenses. While you're at it, find yourself a competent man to marry. Have a kid or two, juggle work with taking care of your kids and your man. If it becomes too much, quit work to focus on taking care of your family. And because you have nothing better to do when your kids are in school and your man is out working, do the household chores (because it’s “a woman’s job”, duh). Keep on supporting your husband, keep on taking care of your kids until the beloved brats can finally support themselves. Be a loving and virtuous wife. And if a person who followed and completed said pattern to “success”, that person is considered “successful” as well. And this is not even checking the individual’s emotional and psychological health. But if that person failed at some point, that person is considered to have not tried hard enough. And if they've stopped in following the said pattern, they're categorized as "failures". So this behavior and beliefs of people, don’t it just make you nuts? Thank goodness I’m not a shrink or I would go crazier than I am now.
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@marguicha (214294)
• Chile
2 Jul 18
We must not follow every pattern our parents show us. I always say that if Little Red Ridding Hood had obeyed her parents, there would have not been a story to tell.
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@1hopefulman (45125)
• Canada
3 Jul 18
Yes, it is not easy to figure out people. Somehow we must navigate through them and maintain our sanity and joy.
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Jul 18
I just worry about what kind of person I am and if I am doing right by God. I don't worry so much about what others do or what they think of me. My Heavenly Father's opinion is the only one I concern myself with.
@JustBhem (70601)
• Davao, Philippines
2 Jul 18
Each of us has it's own identity so I think it's a Human Nature to be weird, unique or different from the other, but that doesn't mean we are not part of the society if we are somewhat different. Hi, you are from Davao?
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
2 Jul 18
We must follow our own hearts. What you described is the conventional societal robot. (100 monkeys pounding 100 keyboards) To break out of the monotony of conventional life we need to detach ourselves from all conventions, regardless of what the robots think of us. That is what is meant by; "Be in the world but not of it."