It is more than a week but still.....
@arunima25 (93194)
Bangalore, India
July 30, 2018 11:55pm CST
Life is unpredictable and changes are unavoidable. Some changes are welcome but some are unseen for and we take some time to come in terms with it. Some big decisions were the demand of the time and I had to take it. My mother in law is not keeping well. She is a patient of dementia and has kidney problem too. She needs a constant help and we have a full time help for her. Of late she was not going well with her electrolyte levels and was admitted twice to hospital in July. My health was also not keeping up with all the responsibilities, managing between hospital and home and my own issue with endometriosis and fluctuating sugar levels. Managing my work in school as a special educator and counselor was getting tough. My mother in law needs constant monitoring of the situation. I had to stay home to manage things. My work suffered and I could not let my special children suffer. SO I decided to take a break for this academic year and concentrate on personal issues and my health. It was a tough decision. Luckily, I got another special educator on a short notice to replace me and I could slowly transfer all things to her in two weeks. July 20th was my last working day in that school as a full time special educator. Since I have been with them for a long time, they offered me job to do from home....taking charge of their newsletter and come for conducting parents workshop once or twice in a month.I gladly accepted that as I wanted to stay in touch with my passion for early education. The counselling sessions in the evening at home were also becoming tough. So I have stopped that too for an year and sent my clients to some good friends of mine.
One week has passed. This is my second week being at home. Everyday when I return home after dropping my younger daughter, I feel a vacuum...something is missing there. I am still to get used to it . It was a tough decision to take a break for uncertainty from something I loved to do...something I was so passionate about.
Thanks for reading. Have you come through such tough decision facing situations in your life?
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 Aug 18
@arunima25 You should. Maybe you can find a picture in Pixabay that will be similar and substitute it.
There are a lot of people here who use Shutterstock without realizing it isn't free to use.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
1 Aug 18
Yes they are. I searched for free images and got this one. So I hope I have not violated any rules.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
1 Aug 18
@just4him So should I delete it?? I do not want to get into any trouble for my ignorance.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
2 Aug 18
Just relax and explore some new ways that keep you happy,before you know it things will be flowing. I wish you well in health and your mother in law as well.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
2 Aug 18
@arunima25 Mmmh,when employed one doesn't get that much time to do other stuff.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
2 Aug 18
@Missmwngi I am getting used to the new routine but I miss the special needs children I worked with..it was my passion and every goal that they met with our combined effort gave me motivation to go ahead with more challenges. I am missing that.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
2 Aug 18
Thank you. Yes getting back to my passion for writing and art with more vigour. I had not much time for them when I was working.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
31 Jul 18
I appreciate your decision to take a break from work and take care of the mother in law and other issues at home. It may be difficult to adjust with the change in life but gradually you will be used with the same. I am sure the change is only for sometime and things will be favour to you and you can continue the job in the near future. By the time take care of your health as well.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
31 Jul 18
@arunima25 The bad phase will pass over quickly.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
31 Jul 18
Thank you. It was a tough decision but family comes first and foremost. I know nothing lasts for ever and this phase too will pass teaching me some new lesson for life.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
31 Jul 18
@Sreekala Thank you for your kind words and support.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
1 Aug 18
I have long decided to stick to my Mom most specially when she gets at her worst while she grows older every year.
You're story is heart breaking as well with her condition. It's even scarier that my mom isn't telling me her condition and scares me all the time.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
3 Aug 18
@arunima25 And next month my relatives are coming to bring my grandma and stay here for the entire year.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Aug 18
@Letranknight2015 I just hope things do not get too overwhelming for you.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
1 Aug 18
You seem to be a very caring son!! I hope everything is fine with your mom.
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@anamika161088 (11866)
• India
31 Jul 18
Tough phases come in life to make us more strong. This phase will go soon. Be strong.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
31 Jul 18
Yes!! This too shall pass. Making me stronger and more wise.
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@Courage7 (19626)
• United States
3 Aug 18
Bless you for your kindness to your Mother in Law. How difficult this must be at this time along with your own health issues. I wish the best of health to be upon you both and family.
I understand how this feels the void that is there also as you are so used to working. That is very hard to give up, I am sorry to hear all this.
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@Courage7 (19626)
• United States
4 Aug 18
@arunima25 Okay this is such a good attitude you have. We are here. A blessed day to you friend.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
4 Aug 18
@Courage7 Thank you. Such nice words really mean a lot.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
4 Aug 18
Thanks for your kind words and concern. I am getting used to the new routine. Enjoying it by keeping myself engaged.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
23 Aug 18
It is understandable that it would not have been an easy decision to quit the job, which was very dear to you. Apparently, you were left with no choice, but to give up your job because of house hold responsibilities. I hope that you would come to terms soon and adjust yourself.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
23 Aug 18
@arunima25 Pursuing writing is a good hobby and will help you remain mentally active. It is understandable that making preparations for the workshop, also keep you engaged.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
23 Aug 18
I have settled well with the new routine. I am pursuing writing and art to keep me productively engaged. Any way I have two to three worshops every month. Preparing for them takes time.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
23 Aug 18
@dpk262006 Yes, I have enough to keep me engaged and productive.
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@snowy22315 (209009)
• United States
31 Jul 18
Nothing at the moment fortunately.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
31 Jul 18
You are fortunate. GOd bless you!!
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
4 Aug 18
Yes. I am getting used to the new routine. In fact now I'm engaged with various things.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Aug 18
Yes I am getting a hang of it now. I have time to do things that I love.
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
6 Aug 18
You are doing the best that you can under the circumstances. I think you have come to the right decision and chose what is most important - your mother-in-law and your own health. You are lucky in that you have such a supportive school system.
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
6 Aug 18
@arunima25 That’s wonderful. I hope everything works out for the best for you all.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
7 Aug 18
@DianneN Thank You. I am staying hopeful with all support and wishes for me.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
6 Aug 18
Yes they are really supportive. Even in the past they supported me a lot during ups and downs. It is a wonderful community to work with.
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
1 Aug 18
That is the uncertainity. Meanwhile I am planning few things for each day and looking forward to it. Fulfilling those also is gives a sense of accomplishment.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
31 Jul 18
I am hopeful too!! It was not in my plan but I think almighty had this plan with some purpose.
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@Jessabuma (31696)
• Baguio, Philippines
31 Jul 18
I am so sorry to hear about your mother in law . I know how hard/tough your situation is, but be strong. It's a part of life. Good luck to you .
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
31 Jul 18
Thank You so much for your kind words. I know tough situations are here to make us stronger. I have learnt it from my past experiences.
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@Jessabuma (31696)
• Baguio, Philippines
31 Jul 18
@arunima25 yes that's right. Be strong and have faith..
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@Jessabuma (31696)
• Baguio, Philippines
31 Jul 18
@sharon6345 Thanks Sharon ,dear.
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@1hopefulman (45111)
• Canada
5 Aug 18
Yes, sometimes there are very challenging situations to deal with and we have to make adjustments. I hope that what you have done will help. It is tough!
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
6 Aug 18
It was a tough decision but I feel I did the best. Now I realize that taking this decision has helped me with my peace of mind.
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@lookatdesktop (27156)
• Dallas, Texas
3 Aug 18
My kidneys are not at the 100% level any more, thanks to modern medicine. The medications I took for 20 plus years permanently did some damage. I have been devoted to my wife of over 35 years and am every day looking after her health and needs. I love her and want to keep her around for a long long time to come. So, I do the things I can do for her and myself and in spite of not working and living on retirement income, I find life is very rewarding. Love is keeping me together.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
4 Aug 18
That is so sweet!! Love is rewarding and healing!! I wish you both many more years of togetherness.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Aug 18
i would like to wish you good luck in everything you do.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
4 Aug 18
Thank you so much!! I need tons of them.
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