Middle Man In Toasting A Girl

@GovindaB (249)
Accra, Ghana
October 10, 2018 2:15am CST
In my part of the world, trying to convince a girl to enter a loving relationship with you is called "toasting". Recently one of my friends asked me to toast a girl for him. I did. It succeeded, but my friend is no more interested. She ain't aware of that, and I don't wanna hurt her feelings. He ain't picking up her calls. How do I break this unpleasant news to her? Pls advice.
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YoghurtGal
@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
13 Oct 18
Hi Govinda! Which part of the world are you from. In the Philippines we refer to toasting as “manliligaw” in Tagalog and in my dialect “Manguyab” which is a counterpart of courting a girl. I think your friend is very irresponsible. If he’s not interested anymore he should tell the girl rather than ghosting her. It’s a cowardly act. And he should consider that he put you in a compromising situation. The least he could do is solve it rather than you having to solve his problem.
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YoghurtGal
@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
14 Oct 18
@GovindaB I always think that a man who awakens a woman’s love should take responsibility for it. Like you started a fire you should cook something on it or at least put it off. Otherwise there’ll be a big house fire.
Govinda Blankson
@GovindaB (249)
• Accra, Ghana
14 Oct 18
@flapiz. I am from Ghana. Your term for toasting sounds sexy. I've adopted it. I agree with you about my friend's irresponsible attitude in this regard. The girl is gradually coming to terms with the situation. It's a matter of time, she'll soon know.
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Govinda Blankson
@GovindaB (249)
• Accra, Ghana
14 Oct 18
@flapiz That's a very nice analogy.
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@anya12adwi (6049)
• India
10 Oct 18
I had been the toasting cook in my initial days of my college.. But the guy broke up with my good friend and since then, I had taken this vow never ever again to be a toasting cook..!!
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@anya12adwi (6049)
• India
11 Oct 18
@GovindaB Yes, I very much knew from her ex-boyfriend.. She had misunderstanding that I am eyeing on his bf and his bf has soft corner for me..
Govinda Blankson
@GovindaB (249)
• Accra, Ghana
10 Oct 18
@anya12adwi. That's unfortunate. Your friendship might have shaken afterwards. Did u know the cause of the break up?
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Hope
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
10 Oct 18
I don't know of any easy way to do this. Don't you think that your friend that is no longer interested should tell her himself?
Hope
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
11 Oct 18
Govinda Blankson
@GovindaB (249)
• Accra, Ghana
10 Oct 18
@1hopefulman It's the best Way. But he's silent on it for reasons only known to himself.
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Govinda Blankson
@GovindaB (249)
• Accra, Ghana
11 Oct 18
@1hopefulman Heheheh
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lady Di
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
10 Oct 18
that is quite awful. it is my first time hearing of this term though Can't the guy man up and tell the girl himself?
Govinda Blankson
@GovindaB (249)
• Accra, Ghana
10 Oct 18
@lady1993 He doesn't have the courage to.
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lady Di
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
12 Oct 18
@GovindaB that is quite unfair to the girl
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Govinda Blankson
@GovindaB (249)
• Accra, Ghana
12 Oct 18
M.-L.
@MALUSE (69409)
• Germany
10 Oct 18
"In my part of the world..." --- Your post doesn't make much sense if you don't mention your country on your account page, does it?
M.-L.
@MALUSE (69409)
• Germany
10 Oct 18
@GovindaB This information belongs on your account page.
Govinda Blankson
@GovindaB (249)
• Accra, Ghana
10 Oct 18
Haha. Sorry about that. I'm in Ghana
Abigael Jerobon
@a_jerobon (2304)
• Eldoret, Kenya
10 Oct 18
You don't have to take the trouble, she will realise it on her own.
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Govinda Blankson
@GovindaB (249)
• Accra, Ghana
10 Oct 18
Thank you for the advice Abigael.