Forgiving But Not Forgetting

Philippines
October 10, 2018 11:53pm CST
Is it okay to forgive but not to forget? For me, this is understandable. You may have forgiven someone but you do not trust him/her anymore.
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@Nercie (231)
• Naga City, Philippines
11 Oct 18
It's easy to forgive but very hard to forget. I have experienced it, because I became too consumed of my hatred. I became unhappy, everything seems negative. When I can't already bear my hatred and I can see myself very differently it became my waking point to free up all those hatred inside my heart. It's hard to trust that someone who has done something to you. Remember it as a lesson in your lesson in your life.
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• Germany
11 Oct 18
I agree with you
• Philippines
11 Oct 18
It is easier to forgive and forget when it involves a close relative or friend. When it comes to other people, I think, I can forgive but will be cautious in dealing with them again in the future.
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@Nercie (231)
• Naga City, Philippines
12 Oct 18
@pinoycity I agree with you my friend.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
11 Oct 18
To forgive is much doable but to forget is not.
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• Philippines
11 Oct 18
Yeah, try as you might, it is difficult to remove from your mind, totally, the wrongs that have been done to you.
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@deba12 (2951)
• India
11 Oct 18
If you don't forget, you will be in pain. But make sure that you don't let that person make the same mistake. Take that mistake as a warning.
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• Philippines
12 Oct 18
Sometimes, not forgetting can save you. You already know what a person is capable of doing.
@ZedSmart (19753)
• Philippines
11 Oct 18
It's difficult to restore the trust that once broken.
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• Philippines
11 Oct 18
Yes, once broken, your feelings toward a person, it will not mend easily.
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@montaun (256)
• Philippines
11 Oct 18
I'll never forget, ever.
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• Philippines
12 Oct 18
I guess, even if one tries, he/she will not be able to forget.
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@orlamie (13)
• Bamako, Mali
11 Oct 18
If you don't trust him or her that shows you haven't forgive them.and besides before anyone can offend you Jesus says it should be 70*7 times before we get offended.
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• Philippines
12 Oct 18
I think, what Jesus meant was we should forgive those who have offended us 70x7. It is not a sin (at least, in my opinion) to feel offended or to get angry (even Jesus got angry with people selling things near the temple). And for me, you can still be forgiving and not trusting.
@m_audrey6788 (58485)
• Germany
11 Oct 18
How can you forgive when you don`t remember?
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• Philippines
12 Oct 18
You may have already forgiven someone if you do not remember anymore the wrong that has been done. But then again, you may only be a forgetful person. It is possible that you have forgotten but have not forgiven yet.
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
11 Oct 18
I usually forgive and forget in the sense that I don't hold something against anyone. Yes, I am more cautious in the future.
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• Philippines
11 Oct 18
I agree. You have not forgiven someone if you will still hold a grudge against that someone. But it is still possible to forgive but not forget. For me, it is better to be forgiving but be cautious.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
11 Oct 18
That is true. We may have forgiven a person, but we can never forget the bad that he has done to you. Every time that there is a thing that will remind you of the act, you will always be reminded of the fault of that person.
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• Philippines
12 Oct 18
Yes, I agree. In most cases, it is impossible to forget.
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@Rosain (639)
• India
11 Oct 18
It's right to forgive but not forget. Forgiving someone lighten our heart but forgetting means we didn't get the lesson from it. People who hurt us once, can hurt again.
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• Philippines
12 Oct 18
Exactly my point. But as Debashri Das has written in her reply above, not forgetting can also hurt us. But I believe, you have not forgiven completely if it still hurt while remembering the wrongs done by someone.
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@Rosain (639)
• India
12 Oct 18
@pinoycity i agree with you
• Bekasi, Indonesia
29 Dec 18
i think i never thought like that