Felt Awkward in a Gathering
By @acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
Philippines
October 27, 2018 5:33am CST
One of our neighbors invited us for their 25th wedding anniversary, saying it would be just a "late breakfast."
My husband and I thought it was an informal gathering of neighbors over a cup of coffee.
We were wrong, when we arrived at the venue, just near the village gate, we saw the couple wearing formal wear, gown and barong (formal Filipino long sleeves), and some guests too, but some wore informal clothes like us.
We also thought it was exclusive for the homeowners only, but some local public officials were there too.
I felt awkward because I was wearing a t-shirt with collar, and I thought I should had worn even an informal blouse. Anyway, the couple were just too happy to see us attend the occasion.
Do you mind if you were not dressed for the occasion; do also feel awkward?
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6 responses
@ilocosboy (45155)
• Philippines
27 Oct 18
I think we call that OP or out of place. I'm like Mark Zuckerberg and I'm used to it
I wear bull cap even when I'm with dignitaries and wear t-shirt though most are in formal. I'm also in ponytail.
I wear bull cap even when I'm with dignitaries and wear t-shirt though most are in formal. I'm also in ponytail.2 people like this
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
28 Oct 18
I go for it too, to be comfortable instead of being too fashionable.
@ilocosboy (45155)
• Philippines
28 Oct 18
As long as it doesn't require formal or semi formal attire, I still go with my prefer clothes.
@DianneN (254949)
• United States
29 Oct 18
@acelawrites It seems that others weren’t aware either. I wouldn’t worry about it at all.
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
Well, I thought it was an informal affair like just a coffeetalk with neighbors. They did not send a formal invitation; just in the chat group.
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@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
16 Nov 18
Maybe the couple just want all the neighbors to be present , so they didn't say what attire should be worn. Usually, others are deterred from attending because of the dress code.
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
28 Oct 18
Oh, well at least you were able to attend. Did they tell you what attire you should wear? if not then it's not your fault.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
28 Oct 18
They did not tell; they said it's only a late breakfast. They invited us through a chatroom for homeowners.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
27 Oct 18
I don't mind if I am not aware of the kind of party it is. It has never happened with me. I don't think you were at fault though you might have felt awkward.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
28 Oct 18
We thought it was just an informal breakfast at a restaurant near our subdivision.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
28 Oct 18
@acelawrites But luckily there were few others who came in informal wear. So even they were not aware.
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