Advice to a Friend

Advice
@CarolDM (203449)
Nashville, Tennessee
October 30, 2018 1:08pm CST
I got a call this morning from a friend who needed advice. She is having problems with her husband's adult children. The relationship is not so good. I was very careful and tiptoed around what I said. The best advice sometimes is to just listen. Not saying anything speaks volumes. I let her talk and she did for over an hour. I think that helped her more than anything I could say. All in all it was good to hear from her. It made me realize my life is pretty good after hearing about her problems. I hope things work out for her. Do you freely give out advice when asked?
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@NormanDarlo (1071)
• Ireland
30 Oct 18
You did well, Carol. Sometimes that's all a person needs, just to be let speak. There's a lot of processing goes on as we talk a problem through, even in monologue.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
30 Oct 18
Absolutely, we know first hand. Listening is powerful.
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• Ireland
30 Oct 18
@CarolDM And sometimes we have to tell the story over and over to begin to come to terms with it. We should always be ready with an ear and shoulder.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
30 Oct 18
@NormanDarlo Yes we do my friend. And I am always ready as I have friends that need non-judgmental conversation.
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
1 Nov 18
I am glad you could help your friend. No one ever asks me anything haha
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
1 Nov 18
@CarolDM Yes I answered there on one the discussions..not great thanks but I will make it
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
1 Nov 18
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
1 Nov 18
I ask you how you are doing... how are you doing???
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@id_peace (14005)
• Singapore
18 Jan 19
You are really smart.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
18 Jan 19
Thank you, but it comes from years of experience and life's struggles. We live and learn. I remember what helped me when I had problems.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
30 Oct 18
I do what you do, and lend an ear. Just today a friend called about her husband, who has been very ill. It was good for her to vent to me.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
30 Oct 18
@CarolDM Exactly!
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
30 Oct 18
There is nothing like knowing you have someone who can listen and not judge.
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@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
2 Nov 18
sometimes just being there is all you could help.
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• Philippines
3 Nov 18
@CarolDM It was a good thing of you listening to your friend.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
18 Jan 19
@dave121495 Thank you. I will stop and listen any time she calls.
@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Nov 18
Absolutely that is very important.
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@debjani1 (7207)
31 Oct 18
Why not if someone wants to tell u something and want your opinion definitely I will. It makes the person relax. And speech doesn't cost anything. It is a free advice.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
31 Oct 18
You just have to be careful what you say. Even though they ask they may not be ready to hear your opinion.
@LeaPea2417 (36580)
• Toccoa, Georgia
30 Oct 18
I will give advice whether they are listening or not.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
30 Oct 18
I gave her some but I was careful what I said.
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@amadeo (111948)
• United States
30 Oct 18
not really do not give any.These are adult people let them figured how to get out of this.Been there,done that.Enough for me.lol
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
30 Oct 18
You have a good point. Have a great evening.
@wolfgirl569 (96423)
• Marion, Ohio
30 Oct 18
It depends on what they are wanting advice for.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
30 Oct 18
Yes it always seem sot be personal and family related with my friends.
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@MALUSE (69390)
• Germany
30 Oct 18
It can go well or it can be a shot in the foot. One never knows.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
30 Oct 18
You are exactly right.
@Hannihar (129674)
• Israel
28 Jan 19
@CarolDM That was great what you did for her. She probably needed someone to just listen to her vent. It is not easy marrying someone with children. I try not to give advice if I do not know what I am talking about but if I do I try to listen to someone and if they ask I may answer. It depends on what they want to know.
• Philippines
31 Oct 18
you did good.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Nov 18
Thanks.
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