would you leave your kids alone in a car?

Canada
November 28, 2006 1:28pm CST
I heard on the news this morning that a couple left their 5 kids in the car in a mall parking lot while they went shopping. There were two newborns and the oldest was 7. They were left alone for 1 1/2 hours. I can't believe the kids were returned to the parents with just a call to CAS. What do you think? should they get the kids back that easily?
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@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I know that's how social services operate, but how could any parents be allowed to get away with such neglect? That poor 7-year-old shouldn't have been expected to be their babysitter for that long. When my kids were little, I took them in everywhere with me. Even thought it was a hassle sometimes, I never left them alone. I was afraid of what might happen if they were alone, plus I knew that everywhere I took them gave them more opportunities to learn about life. For awhile I was carrying the mail for hte industrial plant where I worked. It was a heavy woven and leather bag, and in the mornings it would often be very full. My husband was working overtime in those days, so I'd take my 5 year old and my 2 year old into the post office with me to pick up and deliver the mail. It would have been easier leaving them in the car, and it was 6:00 a.m. in a smaller town with no one much around, but I never ever considered it.
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• Canada
28 Nov 06
I was horrified when I heard the report. Like you I took my kids everywhere and never let them out of my sight. I can't believe it was both parents, not just one. Can you imagine the conversation that brought them to the decision this was a good idea? People who aren't up to taking care of them shouldn't be allowed to keep them when there are so many couple out there that would take wonderful care of them.
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@angelface23 (2497)
• United States
28 Nov 06
That's disgusting. People like that shouldn't have kids. If you wanted to be able to go places on your own then you shouldn't have spread your legs! I saw a similar thing where I live but I actually witnessed it. I saw a running car with a newborn baby in the back seat and no one else in the car or anywhere around. It was at the grocery store. I don't think they should get their kids back, ever. Not even visitation.
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• Canada
28 Nov 06
I hope you reported it. People say we should mind our own business, but when I see something like that I am poking my nose right in! If something had happened to those kids the parents would have been all over the TV crying that somebody took their kids and getting all kinds of sympathy for their stupidity.
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• Canada
28 Nov 06
I hope you reported it. People say we should mind our own business, but when I see something like that I am poking my nose right in! If something had happened to those kids the parents would have been all over the TV crying that somebody took their kids and getting all kinds of sympathy for their stupidity.
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• United States
7 Feb 07
One Christmas seasons my mom and I were shopping and saw 2 little kids in a car, they were about 1 and 2 jumping over the seats having a good old time. Just so happened a cop was patrolling the parking lot so we got his attention. When he went to investigate an adult popped up. Apparently the dad had his seat leaned all the way back and he was mad that we told the cop, but I don't feel bad for doing it. Even though it was cold out those kids could have been kidnapped or gotten out of the car and ran through the parking lot. If that happened no one would have seen them they were little and it was dark outside.
@jcvelina (1256)
• Philippines
28 Nov 06
kids car - kids car
no i would not do that and the reason is below: Hundreds of Kids Involved Each Year in Accidents When Left Alone in Cars You're just dashing into a store to grab some milk, dropping a letter off at someone's house, returning a video rental, or grabbing the dry cleaning. There's no harm in leaving your child in the car for just a minute...right? Wrong! For various reasons, hundreds of kids each year are involved in potentially fatally accidents when left unattended in a vehicle. Whether it's from gear-shifted crashes, sweltering temperatures, locking parents out of a car, trunk entrapments, or playing with windows and getting limbs (or necks even) caught, horrific accidents can and do happen in a blink of an eye. And, in some states, it can be considered a misdemeanor offense of leaving a child in the car alone; the offense can become a felony if there are resulting injuries. It's easy to understand why parents feel it is okay to leave a child alone in a car for a very small amount of time to perform a quick errand. These parents who don't think twice about leaving a child alone for just a wee minute typically dote on their youngster and would never willingly place him/her in harm's way. Waking a sleeping child or getting a toddler out of a child seat in freezing cold or less-than-ideal weather is sometimes such a hassle, when the errand can be done single-handedly within a minute or two. But, while the actions can be explained, the consequences could never ever be undone if the unthinkable does occur. As a result, the sound parenting advice remains the same: don't ever leave a child in a car alone, even for a moment. For more information about car safety, statistics, legislation and a first person's account of a tragic ending to a precious boy named Harrison, check out the national non-profit organization, Kids in Cars.
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• Canada
28 Nov 06
Sounds like you've given this some thought. I can't believe the parents in this case weren't charged with child neglect or abandonment or something.
• United States
28 Nov 06
Good response! Give a lot of information and statistics.
@brckoba (795)
• United States
28 Nov 06
It's amazing how irresponsible people can be. I hope they never get their kids back. I am a 23 year old male, I have a very hectic life, yet I take my 2 year old daughter with me everywhere I go. I could never leave her like that.
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• Canada
28 Nov 06
They got to take the kids home with them last night, right from the parking lot. The cops just called Child Protective Services to follow up on them later.
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@aprilsue00 (1992)
• United States
28 Nov 06
That is ridiculous. Leaving newborns in a car at all is stupid. But some people don't think about what they are doing. I don't think they should have gotten their kids back that easily.
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• Canada
28 Nov 06
I figured CAS should have taken the kids and let the parents prove they deserved to have them back.
@magikrose (5433)
• United States
30 Nov 06
That is so wrong. They dont deserve thos kids. With the oldest being 7, who knows how many tims this was done before. People like this make me sick. I have 4 children and I would never leave them in the for any amount of time. I am so glad we can pay at the pump with debit cards now so I dont have to go into the gas station anymore. I also just red a story about a women putting her 1-2mo old in the microwave and turning it on. I wanted to throw-up when I heard that. The poor baby. To think that someone is twisted enough to sit there and listen to the baby cry like that. I pray that someday these people will wake up and realise what they did was wrong.
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• Canada
30 Nov 06
Well said. From the responses I have gotten to this discussion I would say the majority of parents don't understand how they could do this. I have to admit my stomach flipped when I read about the microwave just now. Where in God's name would someone even come up with an idea like that is beyond me. There are so many loving couples that would be great parents to a child if they could adopt, so there are options if a parent can't handle it. Leaving them alone is just plain irresponsible though.
• United States
30 Nov 06
that s horrible. the only time i leave my son in the truck is if im running in to pay for gas ath the gas station. going shopping though is rediculous. no they shouldnt get their kids back that easily. hell no!!!
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• Canada
30 Nov 06
Isn't it weird how they decide what's more traumatic for the kids, being left alone or put in a home with people that wouldn't do that?
@emarie (5451)
• United States
29 Nov 06
i don't know why people would do such things. honestly i did for about 2 seconds and the car and my baby were in my view the whole time. (i parked at the post office to put a letter in the mailbox...i didn't know there was a drive through one) but i don't understand how then can leave them in the car for long amounts of time. if they stay in the car, so do i...
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• Canada
29 Nov 06
And that's the way it should be if you are a decent parent. I just don't get what goes on in some people's heads.
• United States
29 Nov 06
NO! they should have not been returned that easily to the parents...anything could have happened...not to mention they could have been kidnapped as well. they could have very easily passed out in the car, or been hurt. The parents should be punished and the kids need a safer enviroment to live in.
• Canada
29 Nov 06
I can't imagine what's going on in the heads of the authorities with this one!
@kesfylstra (1870)
• United States
29 Nov 06
No, they need some help before they can raise kids again. I feel bad when I put my baby in the car seat, and go back to lock the house door. I'm only ten feet away for 30 seconds! An hour and a half, in the middle of a parking lot where anyone could nab them? These parents have problems. Possibly just pure stupidity, but problems.
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• Canada
29 Nov 06
I heard an update last night and the mother has been charged, but they didn't say what the charge was and if the father had been charged as well. Apparently CAS feels the kids are safe with her because it's very traumatic for kids to be taken away from their parents? How stupid is that when they do something like this?
@proofsay (661)
• Indonesia
29 Nov 06
No way! dont ever leave your kids alone in a car. it's dengerous, maybe your kids can be kidnap!
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• Canada
29 Nov 06
there are so many bad things that could happen.
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
29 Nov 06
that is NONSENSE!! I've left my kids in the car if I had to run into a store quickly but they are 11 and 13...there is no way in hell I'd leave little ones like that especially newborns! thats crazy....
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• Canada
29 Nov 06
I think 11 & 13 are reasonable ages to leave them for a couple of minutes. At least at that age they know not to open the door to strangers or get out of the car!
• United States
29 Nov 06
I make double and triple sure I take my daughter every where I go. I would never ever leave her alone in the car. If something bad happened to her.....
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• Canada
29 Nov 06
Can you imagine? I could never live with myself if something happened to any child because of my stupidity!
@Cortney (3982)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I don't think you should ever leave a small child in the car alone. I make my daughter go with me everywhere and she is almost 8. There are so many things that can happen to them. When my cousin was 10, his grandma left him in the car to run in the house.. he hopped into the drivers seat and drove right through the garage into the kitchen.
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• Canada
28 Nov 06
Oh my god, I hope nobody got hurt?
@Meljep (1668)
• United States
28 Nov 06
Did your parents ever leave you in the car when you were growing up? 4 of us were left for sometimes up to an hour, even in the heat. It was too much trouble to drag 4 kids through the grocery store.
• Canada
28 Nov 06
You poor thing! I would never leave my kids alone in a car. If I can't get a sitter I took them with me or stayed home.
@srhelmer (7031)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
28 Nov 06
I don't leave my daughter alone for more than a few minutes when she's in another room in our house. There's no way I would ever leave her alone in a car when she could get abducted.
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• Canada
28 Nov 06
I can't even imagine what was in these people's heads?
@claudia413 (4284)
• United States
28 Nov 06
baby - A baby or young child should never be left in a car unattended while a parent goes shopping.
No way should they have gotten the kids back that easily. They should have been put in jail. Kids can die or be kidnapped if left alone in a car while parents go shopping.
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• Canada
28 Nov 06
So it's not just me thinking that should have happened.
@loved1 (5336)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I cannot imagine ever doing this. It amazes me that people can get their children back after something like this. The laws are not made to protect the children.
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• Canada
28 Nov 06
You got that right, but spank your child and they are right there, ready to take them away!
• United States
28 Nov 06
hell no, thats crazy, there's no telling what would have happened, i could see if there was a teenager that was responsible enough to watch after the younger kids, but for them to be so young, thats crazy!
• Canada
28 Nov 06
I couldn't believe they left a 7 year old in charge. I have a 6 1/2 year old grandson and there is no way I'd leave him in charge of anything.
@mystikel (577)
• Australia
28 Nov 06
That is horrible, as a mum stories like this upset me as it makes you wonder how they are with the kids at home....do they leave them alone to go out for the night? etc.. I take my kids everywhere....take them out even when paying for petrol as you just never know who is around or what can happen with cars.
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• Canada
28 Nov 06
That's what all GOOD parents do!