when is enough, enough

Fall River, Massachusetts
January 24, 2019 9:36pm CST
I'am a single mom 38 yrs old, I've dealt and been through many many things in my life, it seems my life never stops with triumph after triumph,pain after pain, i know many things were because of my own choice, I have always been more given then receiving, and have always been there for everyone, what I've seen is that everyone I have ever done for, never seems to be around after, the after math they cause in my life, they seem to not care , the men i have encountered have either cheated, used or hurt me in someway, my mom says i need to keep moving forward that I need to realize no matter how much i been hurt in the past, not to let it define my future, my problem is, i have been so hurt that I'am afraid of being hurt yet again. but i do believe that there is a 'guy out there that will love and accept me and my children at times, then there are times i feel it will never be. would love to hear thoughts and experiences from others?
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@Ladanger (14582)
• United States
25 Jan 19
I have these same thoughts and i am 26 to be honest it caused me anxiety and depression. I isolate myself alot and now i just go on dates . I don't believe in anyone.
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@Decgirl (291)
25 Jan 19
Been in this situation.. now in life I have learnt that things happen for a reason,to make us tough to make us strong.. let life happens on it's own.. let's hope for the best..
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• United States
25 Jan 19
Hello there! I'm 36 and I also have been through a lot in my life. I have had both good times and bad times I've learned to try to make the best of everything instead of worrying so much. I'm very nice too and I find people using me for my kind heart and soul. Especially man that I have dated just use me and the relationship never lasts. I want better for myself this new year. I will just focus on my business and do just casual dating, for now, nothing serious. I do hope things get better for you dear.
@RasmaSandra (73326)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
25 Jan 19
At your age, you should try to find a good man to be with you and help you with the children. It is not a simple thing to do though. However, you do have children so your first thought is to them and you are not alone. Having lost my husband and having no children of my own and in my later years I am now all alone but for me to find someone I would not but you still have a lot of living to do.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
25 Jan 19
Find love in your heart. Love yourself. Love life. Forget men for the meantime.
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@Sheali (7461)
• India
25 Jan 19
I believe that every one has a perfect match.. Anyways, I know sometimes, given the circumstances, it is difficult to believe in that.. I wish you the best in life
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
25 Jan 19
That's understandable. When one is so very much hurt, she is afraid already of doing the same thing - specially that of falling in love again. But your mom is right, move on and don't let it keep you in your place.