To or not to intervene....
@Aansh13 (11433)
New Delhi, India
February 27, 2019 11:21am CST
One of my friends called me today and was upset because her mother-in-law told her to start family, she asked her to concieve and have a baby.
Now I am wondering isn't this suppose to be a very personal thing. I mean this shouldn't be imposed, it's a very private decisions that two people involved should decide about.
Sometimes I really wonder, how do people even talk about this to their daughter or daughter-in-laws.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
27 Feb 19
It IS a personal thing. I know my sister has said her mother in law says these things to them - it is stressful. It's not just a decision to have a baby, but some couples have trouble conceiving - they are "trying" but it's just not happening. So when people say things like this, it can be insensitive, heartbreaking and hurtful too.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
27 Feb 19
It's so common in our culture. We can't change mindset of our old generation nor we should hurt them with our gestures. Your friend should listen to her own self. Having a baby is a big decision and they should have a baby when they are ready for it. She can just try talking to them if it is worth or just ignore them politely without being rude or hurtful.
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@Aansh13 (11433)
• New Delhi, India
28 Feb 19
@arunima25
Exactly this is what I said.... Ditto infact.... 
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
28 Feb 19
@Aansh13 A wise and pragmatic suggestion.
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