What Happens to Love?
By Jo Ann
@akalinus (40714)
United States
March 2, 2019 1:21pm CST
I was in the laundry today and a guy came in looking upset. He was having trouble with his wife. They were fighting and yelling at each other.
I started thinking about all the people who fell out of love with someone when they were so close and loving before.
I wondered what happens to love. Why does it sometimes end up that way? Is it the stress of every day or are there deeper reasons?
What do you think happens to love? Do you have a story to share?
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10 responses
@just4him (307773)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
3 Mar 19
First of all, the couple needs to be in love, not just a facsimile to it. Many people think they are in love only to find when trouble hits, they want out of the relationship. That's lust, not love and easily broken with lots of retributions and anger on both sides. Love, on the other hand, weathers all storms. Nothing will break it no matter what life throws their way. Love works through problems to find solutions.
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@just4him (307773)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
5 Mar 19
@FayeHazel Yes, it does. Thank you.
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@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
4 Mar 19
Beautifully written. I think you're right, too. Takes love, on both sides.
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@allknowing (130233)
• India
3 Mar 19
When situations change love flies out of the window.
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@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
3 Mar 19
I believe, in any relationship love is the foundation but not enough ingredient to have a long-lasting relationship. Open-mindedness, patience, and respect are also important.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
2 Mar 19
With my first marriage it was abuse that destroyed the love.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
14 Mar 19
@akalinus Yes it sure can..see a person for who they really are is a really eye opener
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@akalinus (40714)
• United States
15 Mar 19
@Happy2BeMe Many of us marry someone who turns into someone different. I don't know how that happens. 
@Shivram59 (32115)
• India
3 Mar 19
@akalinus I'm single and have no idea about love,but I think most often physical attraction is mistaken for love .
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@Shivram59 (32115)
• India
4 Mar 19
@akalinus You are absolutely right.But I have a question.Suppose I love a girl who wants me to do something I'm unwilling to do.She is aware of my reluctance.What then? Would my love for her be considered true if I do what she wants me to? And would her love be considered true if she honours my unwillingness to do her desired work and prevents me from doing it?
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@akalinus (40714)
• United States
7 Mar 19
@Shivram59 It would depend on what she wanted you to do. What if she wanted you to kill someone or rob something? You know you would not do those things. If she honors your decision, then it is out of love.
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@arunima25 (85733)
• Bangalore, India
26 Mar 19
They were behaving inappropriately in a place and that is not right to do. But sometimes emotional outrage leads to such behavior. But I can still not say that they are out of love by one fight and verbal spat. Couples do fight and it is common in a healthy relationship. But yes their behavior was not proper.
And there is a saying that good fights are sign of a healthy relationship. But yes definitely it should not be an abuse or too frequently.
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@akalinus (40714)
• United States
26 Mar 19
@arunima25 He drives a truck so he is not home that much.
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@arunima25 (85733)
• Bangalore, India
26 Mar 19
@akalinus If it is regular and frequent, they need some help. It might be signal for some real underlying issues.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Mar 19
I think lot's of times "self" gets in the way and people are more worried about that than the other person who was once more important to them than life itself.
That's why I'm grateful my husband and I both share the same faith where we put love about self.
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@WorDazza (15833)
• Manchester, England
2 Mar 19
I definitely think everyday stresses play a huge part. It can be easy to not pay your partner the attention they deserve if you feel bogged down by everyday crap!!
I know that my wife and I get on so much better when we're taking time off work.
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@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
4 Mar 19
Oh that is sad. :/
I know , one lovely summer eve I was walking downtown. And I heard a couple who lives in the upstairs above a local business - having a screaming match.
I had just been lamenting the fact of being single, wanting someone to spend the lovely evening with. That argument brought me back to reality. For some reason, things don't seem to stay lovely for couples.
@akalinus (40714)
• United States
4 Mar 19
@FayeHazel I don't know. I suppose life either drives you apart or brings you closer together. I read the true crime books where one kills the other and dumps the body somewhere and wonder how it all went wrong.
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@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
4 Mar 19
@akalinus Scares me too. Just about any of those couples in divorce court, or those unhappily together - were madly in love once. Where did it go?
