Do we love people because of what they are or irrespective of what they are...???
@Aansh13 (11251)
New Delhi, India
May 12, 2019 1:46am CST
There has been this question in my head for last few months, I had discussed this with number of people around and finally thought of putting it here...
Love is a kind of complicated emotions, there is no rule book to fall in love or even to stay in love.
But I always wonder why do we actually love people... One day while I was thinking about my husband, I realised that I married him for who he was, and then next thought was love is also about adjusting and accepting people for who they are... I got confused. I couldn't make out what is more important...??? Or may be both are but what is the driving force...???
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@arunima25 (85305)
• Bangalore, India
12 May 19
We go through phases in relation. We fall for someone for who he/she is but with passing time and the bond getting stronger we love them irrespective of who they are. And you are right there is no water tight compartmentalized definition of love. Human emotions are deep, intricate and too complicated.
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@arunima25 (85305)
• Bangalore, India
13 May 19
@Aansh13 And unrealistic expectations and too much of unnecessary analysis and comparison make it more complicated. Better to keep it simple
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@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
13 May 19
@arunima25
I would agree to that... Too much speculation is of no good. Keeping it simple is the best way to live and let others live
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
12 May 19
It probably works both ways. We love our family members because they are our family members. We love some people because we are attracted to them.
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@parpande (1515)
• Bangalore, India
12 May 19
These are the personality traits of all individuals , what do we get fascinated about is hard to describe. I tried to notice few people and I found they had a liking to a person who does nt have barely things in common but still had an infatuation to the person , they never admitted that their love was for that person for what they are... but it seemed very clear that their subconscious mind signals them to get attracted for the people for what they are ....
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@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
12 May 19
I think this subconscious mind explanation holds true, I would agree to it completely
@This_is_someone (21)
• India
12 May 19
I think the main driving force is that you must be able to adore and respect the other person for their qualities and abilities. The thing that keeps you going is how the other person treats you, whether your partner puts in the same efforts as you do, gives you enough time as well as personal space, and most importantly both your interests and thoughts must match ( not all but maximum).
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@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
12 May 19
On the last part, I and my husband have way different approach towards life, he being someone who scales everything with logic and I am someone who is a mixture of emotional and practical approach. But the fact that I am at peace is neither of us is pushy, we let the other person be. I also someone who let go of most of the things, something I don't agree with, I don't waste my time or energy to make other person agree. We all have grown up in a certain way, much amendments aren't possible.
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@This_is_someone (21)
• India
12 May 19
@Aansh13 I agree! It is not possible to change someone's opinions. We have to live with it.
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