Thinking not good enough...???
@Aansh13 (11433)
New Delhi, India
May 17, 2019 10:13pm CST
Yesterday, while I was having a conversation with my bestie, she said his hubby doesn't pay attention towards her and the reason to that is because she isn't good enough that she can make him understand things.
I was immediately offended by her statement and scolded her, that why is she judging her self worth with respect to him. 
This is the biggest mistake, we don't need to get our validation or respect on the fact that how other people think about us.
May be by doing this, we are actually fragmenting our confidence. I am sure this isn't the very healthy way to live.
Living by confidence, knowing your strengths and weaknesses, understanding them and thriving to be a better person always helps to build a better you and better relationships.
Isn't it...???
This is the biggest mistake, we don't need to get our validation or respect on the fact that how other people think about us.
May be by doing this, we are actually fragmenting our confidence. I am sure this isn't the very healthy way to live.
Living by confidence, knowing your strengths and weaknesses, understanding them and thriving to be a better person always helps to build a better you and better relationships.
Isn't it...???6 people like this
5 responses
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
18 May 19
We should not demean our self such that we loose our self respect and confidence. I am feeling bad for your friend. Reading your comment below I came to know that they are newly wed. This is not a good start to any relationship and she should not take all blames for it. But I do feel that one has to look into their shortcomings. If she is really not good with communication then she has to work on it and not feel bad about it. And only her husband is not the only authority to validate it. Friends like you can help her.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
22 May 19
@Aansh13 You can counsel your friend in a nice way. She really needs input from friends like you. And it is even better as you personally know both and will be unbiased in your opinion.
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@Aansh13 (11433)
• New Delhi, India
22 May 19
@arunima25
Yeah I always do that, infact more than often
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@Aansh13 (11433)
• New Delhi, India
18 May 19
They have been married recently but have been together long before that... It's actually the relationship of four years. I always know that the problem is with my friend because she is too controlling and demands attention every now and then. On contrary her partner is way easy going... Whom I know personally as well. Putting the things on him isn't the right way of dealing with. It will only worsen up the situation for her
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@Nakitakona (59987)
• Philippines
18 May 19
You're right when you said it in your last statement. It takes time to master them. Nobody is perfect but they be learned and put them in practice.
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@Nakitakona (59987)
• Philippines
18 May 19
@Aansh13 Yes, that's right. Constant practice makes perfect.
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@tech40 (23230)
• Philippines
18 May 19
It seems that his hubby is under depression that is why he said that, 
when you're under the biggest depression there are times that you can't think others feelings. Sometimes just need to listen and understand them they just want someone to listen and help them on his problem
when you're under the biggest depression there are times that you can't think others feelings. Sometimes just need to listen and understand them they just want someone to listen and help them on his problem1 person likes this
