Love isn't about controlling...
New Delhi, India
June 1, 2019 10:59am CST
I remember, when I was in my graduation I had a friend who's boyfriend was super controlling. He never lets her go out with us, he is spying on her most of the time by calling or asking her friends, she wasn't allowed to keep any guy friend because she/ he might fall for each other. To my surprise she even married the same man after we graduated. I always wondered why...??? To me love isn't about controlling, it's more about to say a person " be safe " rather than asking " not to go ". I always believed that it's more of a partnership rather than ownership. Earlier I thought he is madly in love with her, but then I realised he is obsessed with her and that obsession is toxic. Just recently I got to know that they are divorced... And I was like.... This was so obvious, imagining your life with someone like this is a pain... And the pain you are deciding to take might someday be so much that you will finally break all the barriers....
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• United States
6 Jun 19
She is submissive to the partner, and after that it worked for them. The guy might be preventing her from other people out there, knowing he had a good end for both, so they got concentrated, either ownership or partnership, both don't quarrel about it, then fine. It will be a painful lost of emotion after set and done, maybe its from one person while they other has found another lover. But this kind of relationship can still continue, since too much of good time. If really in loved; that mistake can strengthen the both if reconciled.