Love isn't about controlling...

@Aansh13 (10413)
New Delhi, India
June 1, 2019 10:59am CST
I remember, when I was in my graduation I had a friend who's boyfriend was super controlling. He never lets her go out with us, he is spying on her most of the time by calling or asking her friends, she wasn't allowed to keep any guy friend because she/ he might fall for each other. To my surprise she even married the same man after we graduated. I always wondered why...??? To me love isn't about controlling, it's more about to say a person " be safe " rather than asking " not to go ". I always believed that it's more of a partnership rather than ownership. Earlier I thought he is madly in love with her, but then I realised he is obsessed with her and that obsession is toxic. Just recently I got to know that they are divorced... And I was like.... This was so obvious, imagining your life with someone like this is a pain... And the pain you are deciding to take might someday be so much that you will finally break all the barriers....
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@ano460 (656)
• United States
6 Jun 19
She is submissive to the partner, and after that it worked for them. The guy might be preventing her from other people out there, knowing he had a good end for both, so they got concentrated, either ownership or partnership, both don't quarrel about it, then fine. It will be a painful lost of emotion after set and done, maybe its from one person while they other has found another lover. But this kind of relationship can still continue, since too much of good time. If really in loved; that mistake can strengthen the both if reconciled.
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@Aansh13 (10413)
• New Delhi, India
6 Jun 19
Oh! This is the best explanation
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@ano460 (656)
• United States
6 Jun 19
@Aansh13 thank you. I think love is very good but the end is so painful and too emotional pains, pains which you can not see, but its deep inside you. But contrary, Real Love, always will last for ever.
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@Aansh13 (10413)
• New Delhi, India
6 Jun 19
@ano460 Yes... Real love does lasts forever
@Mulidi (1987)
• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)
2 Jun 19
She wasn't in relationship she was arrested by love I'm gland because she bail herself out
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@Aansh13 (10413)
• New Delhi, India
2 Jun 19
Perfect description.... I like the way you presented it. Very true indeed
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@Mulidi (1987)
• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)
2 Jun 19
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@arunima25 (59755)
• Bangalore, India
1 Jun 19
It was never love. He sort of possessed her like a belonging. Sad that she could not sense it in time and had to undergo so much of pain.
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@Aansh13 (10413)
• New Delhi, India
2 Jun 19
I felt the same way... But may be this was destined to happen
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@arunima25 (59755)
• Bangalore, India
4 Jun 19
@Aansh13 Yes. It was destined.
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@Ladanger (14164)
• United States
1 Jun 19
Yeah that is definitely not love. Sounded more like obsession. Good thing she got out of there.
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@Aansh13 (10413)
• New Delhi, India
1 Jun 19
I told her this long back... But love is blind too
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@Ladanger (14164)
• United States
1 Jun 19
@Aansh13 heart vs mind. Sadly
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• Philippines
2 Jun 19
To live our life is short. Just learn the simple way to experience love. It complicated but you will know who you really are in the way to let go and be happy
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@Aansh13 (10413)
• New Delhi, India
2 Jun 19
Yes, true in every sense. I agree to what you said
@db20747 (35691)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
2 Jun 19
I knew a girl friend like this!! Couldn't figure out how she put up with this!! She was married ar 17!! Cant imagine putting up with this for 50 years!
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@Aansh13 (10413)
• New Delhi, India
2 Jun 19
My god... 50 years.... That's too much... Must be strong headed
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