I just can’t
By C
@ShyBear88 (59342)
Sterling, Virginia
July 30, 2019 10:17am CST
It always seems there is always that one person that says they understand but really don’t understand or don’t remember. I get asked often to go out and hangout. More often then not my answer is I can’t. I have 3 kids I can’t jsut leave them on there own. Their dad has a 3 day work week which changes weekly (he gets a 6 week schedule at a time). I never really went out as a teen just want me. Still my ideas of going out is 3 hours alone with no kids to just shop which I hate. I enjoy other people’s company other then small humans and my husband but I don’t want to go and hang out with others that are constantly asking me every day to go out with them.
I can’t just stop the world for some other person randomly I load my kids like they are box of stuff and say hey see you later. My full time job is my children till they are able to take care of themselves. Even then I’ll always stop and be there for when they need me above anyone else.
I tend to block out pushy people.
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3 responses
@Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 19
@ShyBear88 Well, lucky for me that I have family members (especially my sisters) who can help me look after my kids for a while when I go out with friends.
But then I have already trained my kids well enough to be on their own at home when they were small because I had to go to work as I am a single mother. Anyway, they are already big now, so that's all in the past. 
@Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 19
@ShyBear88 You won't be asking them out of the blues.if you plan it earlier. There are weekends that people don't work. I'm sure it's only a once-in-a-while thing and they would be happy to look after your kids for you.
Train does not only apply to dogs. Workers or employees get trained as well. The bible says in Proverbs 22:6 - Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Kids are kids. It's okay if they misbehave. They'll learn when they make mistakes.
If you find it so hard to go out, then why not invite your friends over to your house and have conversations in the comfort of your own home where it's easier to watch over your kids at the same time.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
31 Jul 19
As do I but the person asking doesn’t have kids and I don’t know them well enough to have my kids come along with. And what they want is adult time not adult and children time.
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@emmapadrino (195)
• Calabozo, Venezuela
30 Jul 19
in life everything has its moment, if these people are your friends, they should understand how important your children are for you, they should also plan outings in which they can participate, I don't know, for example, go to the park, to have an ice cream , while they play, adults can talk
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
30 Jul 19
I don’t see it as a moment. It’s summer so playing outside and have ice cream isn’t a good combo. These are people that don’t have kids. Right now we only have one car so I can’t get up and go when I feel like it when I want how I want with out without kids.
@Dena91 (17038)
• United States
30 Jul 19
Your family should always come first. If others can't understand that then that is their problem not yours. You are doing right by being with your kids.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
30 Jul 19
I keep telling I just can’t and of course I always get I understand I had kids too but now I can do as I want let’s go out. Wait what? I can’t go got kids, or house stuff, or a life to live. Some days it would be nice to have a break but I can’t take them unless someone watches the kids.
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