Visiting my Mom at the nursing home

Most elderly people don't like the idea of a nursing home at first. But some get the hang of it eventually and actually prefer to stay there. That's what happened to my mom. She was so mad when we put her in palliative care. After a month, she doesn't want to leave anymore. Her caregivers are so nice to talk with and a few fellow elderly have become her friends. The nursing home is just 30 minutes away from my place, so we get to visit Mama every now and then.

@almostoveryou Gosh, that's enduring love. A sacrifice. A mother's love. And a daughter's. You do it all for the love of your children and your mother. Mothers are really trying, especially when they have health care needs. But that is old age bonding. Admirable are those who really render tender loving care. You are doing right with your children. They will make you proud one day. Just wait for it. All your sacrifices will be rewarded sweetly. Blessings to your children and your mother, and you, of course. God keep you all safe and warm.

@eileenleyva Thank you, Eileen. I know I'm just as tired as the others out there. I just don't want to miss this opportunity to take care of my mom, as I had taken care of my dad before he passed away. I tend to think that having the obligation to take care of a parent is a BLESSING because I am given more opportunities to practice kindness and charity. I sometimes blow my top too. Guess I'm still a work in progress. ;-) Also, I want my children to witness this -- as it's important that they acquire the Asian value of taking care of our elderly.

Thank you. That's an interesting bit about Japan. :) I wish I could take care of my Mom all the time. But I've got two young girls to raise and care for and a house to keep. I also drive my kids to school 5 days a week. I let my mom stay with us during the school break (May - June) so I could personally monitor her medication and modify her diet. I did all the cooking, washing, etc. I got really tired and stressed (I have not mentioned before that my Mom can be very difficult to deal with. I love her just the same.) Thankfully I was able to hire two part-time helpers for 5 weeks. Afterward, my siblings and I decided to send her to palliative care. We're actually looking into assisted-living maybe after 6 months at the nursing home. She's well and able now but will still need a paid caregiver to assist her all the time and patiently wait with her at the doctor's clinic for like 3 to 4 hours. It's something that I can't do at the moment because of the numerous chores and errands that I need to fulfill each day. I'm glad she's liking her new environment with other able-bodied elderly and that she's got lots of people to talk with.

That's how it usually is in the Philippines. I wish I could take in my mom for a longer time too, but sadly I don't have other people to help me with elderly care.

@almostoveryou I see. For me it is better.