Losing motivation

@inkyuboz (1365)
Mandaluyong City, Philippines
August 27, 2019 1:57am CST
I'm 33 and sometimes, I compare my life with the life of people my age. Sometimes, I get envious of their achievements and how well they've planned out their lives. I know it's not good to compare yourself with others because you really don't know what's going on in their lives, but still. Is this the mid-life crisis stage I've read about?
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@MALUSE (69918)
• Germany
27 Aug 19
Write down what you have achieved so far. Find out in which field(s) you can achieve more. When you've done that, make a plan how to get there step by step. Then reflect if the end of your way is worth the effort you have to put in to get there. Maybe you can change your attitude and ask yourself why you're envious and what you're envious of. Your neighbour has a bigger car than you? So what? What is it to you? Would you need a bigger car? Why is it important for you to show off with *things*? Can't you attract people with the way you are? Maybe you should simply stop thinking about yourself so much. Find a charity and offer your help to improve the situation of people who really need it.
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@pgntwo (22489)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
31 Aug 19
Sound advice!
@MALUSE (69918)
• Germany
31 Aug 19
@pgntwo Thank you!
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@Janet357 (76359)
27 Aug 19
i dont think so. it's all about your attitude. change it and do what they do and your life will be better.
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@inkyuboz (1365)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
27 Aug 19
I shall try. I've been trying meditation lately and it seems to help me cope with my stress.
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• United States
27 Aug 19
i never compare myself to other people.everyday is a new opportunity.
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@rakski (102218)
• Philippines
27 Aug 19
I do not think that it is midlife crisis. You just have to think positively. We each have our own path to take.
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@LindaOHio (113574)
• United States
27 Aug 19
You're too young for a mid-life crisis. Don't compare your life to others; compare your life to what you want to accomplish.
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@Nakitakona (55654)
• Philippines
27 Aug 19
It's not good of course to compare your life with others. Plan it out. You may take their good examples but not to compare it with for you're life. You're different. You msy your own ability, talent and wisdom.
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@kareng (49046)
• United States
29 Aug 19
First of all, stop comparing your life to other people's lives. They don't compare because you are both two different people. The only person you have to please and compete against is yourself. So sit down and get a piece of paper and make a list of things you want to accomplish. Look at it every day and make notes of what you can do to make the goal(s) that you set. Strike them off one by one as you achieve them and make a bigger goal to tackle. Your confidence will build up too. Good luck.
@rsa101 (36632)
• Philippines
27 Aug 19
Yes as much as possible do not compare yourself with others because you have a different circumstance than them. I think what you should start looking is from within you. Try to tell what is good in you than focusing in what is wrong with you. When you can pinpoint them ask yourself again what can you do to further who are you today and what can become of you if you do that. The things you see from others will just slow you more down and just a distraction. What is important is you and yourself alone.
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@Zelmarq (12553)
• Cebu City, Philippines
27 Aug 19
In life, there are ups and downs, we are so more on the ups since the downs get the best of us and we are often consumed by it. Its ok not to be ok, its one o the sad realities of life, after all, after the downs then the ups would follow. Hope to see you up and motivated again.
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@stringer321 (5720)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
31 Aug 19
Your own slogan says "I'm worse at ... and for this gift I feel blessed". So if there is something that you do best, you still worse at it but you feel blessed. So even if you are the best or worse, feel blessed for this gift. That is your slogan. I think "best" and "worse" are words that are not relevant this days: those try to make us feel good or bad about ourselves. We try to be the best, but why ? Many reasons...I think it is about money and respect... For me, your discussions help me, you have activity that helps me participate.
@pgntwo (22489)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
31 Aug 19
At 33? Mid-life crisis? I doubt it, wait until your mid-fifties...
@ramapo17 (30737)
• Melbourne, Florida
28 Aug 19
I don't think that would be considered "midlife"
@simplfred (20134)
• Philippines
27 Aug 19
I don't compare myself but sad to say other people do... And usually, they've compared me to the successful people with my age... I hate to be compared...
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@Nevena83 (65921)
• Serbia
28 Aug 19
I often feel that way.
@amnabas (13759)
• Karachi, Pakistan
27 Aug 19
Do not compare yourself with negativity in mind you will surely end up demotivated.
• Philippines
27 Aug 19
I feel you. But I guess it's not right to compare yourself to others.