Most of the time I am being surrounded by people who are NOT A GOOD LISTENER at all

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At times when we want to open up something and this is the only way to release our heavy feeling especially on what happened to our past. I believe people tend to open up about their past too. I've been listening to their different stories in which their past is always involve when the open up to the extent of long time history. I just listen and make some comments but I am always making sure that I am not offending them, because I am not giving advises at all yet I am careful with my comments in which usually that is in favor of them to make them feel better. But then if it is my turn to open up with some people they always make rebuttal right away like MOVE ON! PAST IS PAST. Even if I am not yet done to my open up they would throw comments that usually it is being off topic already. They tend to give advises like a template to the extent that my statement are always unfinished, usually it pisses me off. To the other people who did this to me I have hard feelings already because she herself is not receptive to the advises of other people yet I've experience biases on her. Now she can't even show herself to us because she is avoiding any trouble. We already have a gap. I tried to open up something to my classmate too it is about his friend and it turned to the same thing he keeps on commenting like let it go whereas I am just opening up what happened. So I did not force to continue my story but then I was totally offended and realized that he is not a good listener too. Because of being offended I sent him a message and tell the truth that I became offended yet there are even some people who are judging me according to my past so what's the difference when I am the one who is opening up? Some people would still insist in my face about the past and would even hate me because of that, aside from that discrimination is part of it. I also tried to open up to my other classmate. This one is a suicide survivor, as in yeah! he attempted twice as in if nobody sees him hanging then he is our 3rd batchmate who have taken suicide. It happens that our adviser became alarmed of his post about depression. Our adviser told us about it and she told us to pay attention to him because he might be the next one. I talked with him and there you go we were right he is suffering emotionally, so there I became a listener to him and he talks the whole thing about his past and the other tragic experiences. His heavy feeling is being released on his part and realized that he just need someone to talk with or open up. Then months after or even a year after I am the one who tried to open up and of course past is also related. He has the guts to tell me that past is past and he notices that I am digging too much about my past. Again I became offended yet he keeps on commenting and commenting so there are some parts that I did not force to continue. I message him about the video of depression that he has to listen and not necessarily give advises and he's been there too. I believe he agreed on it but then it pisses me off because at the back of my mind who the hell in the first place was about to die because of his attempts twice then he will be the one who keeps on giving advises blah blah!!!! then I am thinking otherwise of where is the problem now. My lesson here is I am now careful who to open up with and making sure that they are good listeners. I have no problems to people who wants to make comment or unsolicited advises but then I hope they have to be careful as well. I am also thinking that otherwise I will remind them to let me finish first and don't make any comments while I am stating my point. At times while I am letting go about my past there are still some people who would still remind of the past issue and even harass me.