Would you throw away your friendship because he/she has fallen for you?
By janice
@renicemae (4883)
Philippines
October 6, 2019 12:29am CST
My friend (married girl) told his bestfriend (single guy) that she thinks, she's falling for him.
The guy also confesses that he's also falling for my friend but he's denying it to himself coz he knows they cant be together. They both cried and he was like ready to throw away thier friendship but she said ... No, we can still be friends. We just need time to kill these feelings and be friends again like we are before. The guy also thinks the same and said that ...If I could only, then I would marry you but we cant.
Their situation is very difficult. 
I think my friend found the love, care and attention she thinks she deserves to his bestfriend compared to her husband. All i knew is that her husband is a player. She once vent to us, her colleagues about the matters she has with her husband.
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Would you stay as friends? or would you throw it away? Did you have similar experience?
I think my friend found the love, care and attention she thinks she deserves to his bestfriend compared to her husband. All i knew is that her husband is a player. She once vent to us, her colleagues about the matters she has with her husband.
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Would you stay as friends? or would you throw it away? Did you have similar experience?10 people like this
10 responses
@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
7 Oct 19
they guy is single. my friend is married
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
7 Oct 19
@renicemae so that's the missing but very significant detail that should have been mentioned in your discussion. i'll bet the responses would be very different if you included that.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
14 Oct 19
@hereandthere hahaha...should i just change the title then hahaha
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Oct 19
I wonder what makes it difficult when they both love each other.
I and the boyfriend are best of friends before we commit to a relationship, and I’m telling you, it’s a good relationship with a friend coz you are already comfortable with each and at the same time know each other.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
6 Oct 19
friendship is actually a good foundation. if they go the next level then eventually break up instead of marrying each other, they can remain good friends because of that foundation.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
7 Oct 19
its hard to remain friends after breakup. if im in that situation, i'd choose friendship over love
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
21 Oct 19
It sounds to me like she wants to be a player like her husband and is trying to justify her feelings for another man. Voicing her feelings to the other man, was reckless on her part. Now, he knows how she feels and is playing along with her. It's best for her to walk away before things get out of hand.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
7 Oct 19
now im wondering if its possible for two people of the opposite gender to remain friends after they have confess to each other that they have mutual feelings?
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@vsai2008 (11794)
• India
7 Oct 19
@renicemae I think it is possible, it depends on the maturity of both those individuals involved. If they are clear with their thoughts and know their boundaries then they can stay as friends.
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@yoalldudes (35028)
• Philippines
6 Oct 19
You will gain a boyfriend, and lose a friend. You will lose him anyway, so if you feel the same way for him, I'd say go for it.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
15 Oct 19
@yoalldudes actually, it will become an extramarital affair because @renicemae mentioned in the comments that the guy is single, but her friend is actually married.
@yoalldudes (35028)
• Philippines
16 Oct 19
@hereandthere Oh I see I missed that out. Extramarital is a no-no when there are kids involved.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
16 Oct 19
@yoalldudes so you mean it's alright if there are no kids yet??
@GreatMartin (23670)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
6 Oct 19
No difficult at all--he is doing the right thing--walking away!
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
7 Oct 19
if im on their shoes.. I would rather choose friendship over love
