Harrowing Trip
By eileenleyva
@eileenleyva (27555)
Philippines
November 16, 2019 2:24am CST
This is a post that I probably must not tell because a kin whom I requested to accompany me to the province for GPS purposes deliberately led me to pitch black towns where only the available lights of motor bikes and trucks and occasional cars had been my guide.
This kin's father never liked me, for I saw through the tell tales he concocted and the bum that he was. He passed away a long time ago. His family I dearly pray for every day, because we are relatives. Unfortunately, the dislike towards me was passed on to the kin and that he was waiting for an opportunity to hit back, for his father.
When on our way back, I asked "Did we pass by this bridge?" I usually take note of new bridges because I honk three times for passing over. He did not answer right away. After sometime, he asked me to make a left on a feeder road. I was surprised because that would mean we will pass by smaller roads.
Instinctively, I stopped and asked the local patrol where we were and what is the easiest way back to the Metro. It was to take the same road we had traversed for more than an hour.
I sighed and got a little worried, for the sun was about to set. And true enough, total blackness enveloped the highway quickly and there were no light posts at all.
I waited for vehicles, a scooter, a tricycle, a truck, and luckily, there was an SUV with plate CAR____ that became my guide.
I did get home, my kin did even further to pan me to more dangerous roads. But I was alreadt praying to my Guardian Angel to keep me safe and get me home.
I got home. But lost a kin. Severing all communications and ties with him from now on.
Thus, the one and a half hour trip back to the Metro became a five hour nightmare
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
16 Nov 19
He is a mean person if he did it deliberately. I will just cut them off my list of kin. They don't deserve to be there.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
16 Nov 19
Before I had my own children, I did love cradling nephews and nieces, taking care of them when their mothers need breaks, literally reading to them stories and lulling them to sleep with lullabies.
That is why I was blinded and didn't see the truth. I was in denial that the baby I cradled and reared, could do that to me.
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@ZedSmart (19839)
• Philippines
16 Nov 19
@eileenleyva That is expectation versus reality.
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
16 Nov 19
If you think that the lost way or detour was deliberate then I agree to delist him from your life.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
16 Nov 19
At first, he said that taking the longer route was fun ride. Later on, he wanted to drive. I cannot allow that for I know for a fact that he doesn't drive well.
Yes, after this, I will not be concerned about this person any longer. No more.
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
16 Nov 19
@eileenleyva it's sad because you should have been treated as a guest.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
16 Nov 19
@Alexandoy The important thing for me is the relations. Life brings people inside our circle who are outlaws, and we cannot do anything about it. For years, I had hoped and had been kind. That trip changes things.
As the Franciscan adage goes - “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know the difference.”
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@antonbunot (11146)
• Calgary, Alberta
20 Nov 19
Why did you ask him to accompany you when you are fully aware that they hate you?
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
21 Nov 19
He is a godson. I was willing to forego the past.
Unfortunately, this kin is cunning. Or more appropriately - devious. Didn't show signs of hating.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
23 Nov 19
@antonbunot A passage in Matthew goes "Even so, every good tree produces good fruit; but the corrupt tree produces evil fruit."
This kin aped his father.
@antonbunot (11146)
• Calgary, Alberta
22 Nov 19
@eileenleyva hmm, you know what I was thinking.. he may had something evil in his mind. You are lucky nothing bad happened to you!
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@LindaOHio (222222)
• United States
16 Nov 19
I'm so glad you made it back home safely. It's a hard decision to close off a family member. Maybe give it time and think about it again.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
16 Nov 19
I told my daughter the story when she called a few hours ago. She said, "I told you so."
Time spans three decades now. I must let go.
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@ZedSmart (19839)
• Philippines
16 Nov 19
I'm sorry to hear your entire ordeal Ms. Eileen. I think that it's a never ending process of burning bridges from family to family. That is very sad to hear but yes, often times relatives differences are difficult to patch up and it can be inherited from generation to generation.
Thankfully, you're safe back home.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
16 Nov 19
Thank you, eds. That is a very touching message.
Burning bridges is a powerful image, and yes, that reality is true to all of us as the first ever mortal sin committed on earth was brother killing brother. Cain even challenged God "Am I my brother's keeper?"
Yet, our Lord suffered for us, and so I chose the path of peace. However, now that I have affirmed that it is futile to continue with the kinship, I humbly accept my defeat. It would be a graver sin if I allow my self to be in danger.
Sometimes, we have to burn bridges so we will be kept away from inevitable harm
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
16 Nov 19
@ZedSmart Thank you for affirming my own introspection. Yes, I must also take care of my self. The unfortunate instance that happened to me was a wake-up call. Not every one I care for and love reciprocate the feeling.
More importantly, you did remind me the maxim "To feel envy is human, to savor schadenfreude is diabolic." Scary huh, that evil lurks and the proximity of which is very uncomfortable.
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@ZedSmart (19839)
• Philippines
16 Nov 19
@eileenleyva Maybe one day they will realize their actions toward you.
Perhaps, on your part it hurts because despite everything that happens between you and them, you're still hopeful that there would be a settlement on the gap; however, it's now apparent to you that it's not the same thing they want. Thankfully these people failed on their attempt to harm you otherwise you let them experience total schadenfreude.
Be always at peace and stand firm on what you believe is right. Never mind them, no more because it will just reignite the pain. Think about yourself and have something left for you and I think that is more important. It's not you who loses something, it's them.
Sometimes, no matter how civil we are towards people it's not always convincing for them especially that they have these thoughts against you. And since that you're a firm believer of God, I'm sure you can get over with all of these.
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