People Who Ignore Party Invites

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When organizing parties and meals out and inviting friends, most people reply promptly to invites. There are sadly also just a few stragglers remaining incommunicado. An annual occurrence. Wishing I could get my head round that one - I personally take an invite to me to attend a party and other social event invites seriously, as a/. the host has taken the trouble to invite me b/. they've always been happy to support my own social events even if it means long train/coach trips c/. I'd just feel not getting back ASAP to them would be rude, even if the reply is a maybe (as some of mine are) or even not free, but thanks, d/. I'd worry they might feel that in not replying, my action might be regarded as snubbing them, leave them feeling under-appreciated, trivialized, sent to Coventry (especially when their family has done that), intimidated, wondering what they did to deserve the silent treatment and just plain un-respected. e/. I'd think, someone is on the other end of this invitation, and considered me worthy to be invited, so the least I can do is touch base with them. I'm sure that is not the case with those not yet replying to my invites, just not something I get my head round, I appreciate others are trying to be orderly, organized and not stressed out with minor worries - replying to such correspondence as a basic party invite is so basic-reflex to me it alienates me when it isn't automatically reciprocal. No doubt the ones not replying have not yet decided, or assume last minute somehow has more value, - more likely the invite is just some minor item in a much busier bunch of things going on in life, and I shouldn't take the lack of reply to heart, Sometimes the mind spirals on this kind of riff. Such is life. Arthur Chappell