When you resist, they persist.

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I am talking about our emotions. Whenever you resist them, they persist. That is why it is so hard to let go of a person we love. Many people have been taught to avoid their feelings, but the only thing that avoidance leads to is more emotional torture to yourself. I learnt it the hard way with my recent ex boyfriend. He came to my life at a time when I wasn't emotionally mature, was dealing with a masturbation addiction that was causing me alot of emotional torture, then he added the pain through cheating. I became miserable emotionally. Then when I finally ended the relationship, I could not let it go. I kept reaching out to him. Trying to get him back despite all the pain I was feeling. Then I learnt what was causing all this emotional drama in me. I was resisting all the feelings I had for him. Both attraction and hatred. It is until I accepted that I liked him, I was sexually attracted to him and I also hated him for not being faithful that I was able to let go. I am still attracted to him but because I accept that, I can now keep myself from chasing him. Whatever emotional pain you are in right now, allow yourself to feel it. I read a book recently that was talking about willpower. When you become willing to go through pain, it ends faster than when you resist or avoid it.