Sharing of responsibility between husband and wife.

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Sharing of responsibilities: The first phase of married life starts with this. Both partners have to share responsibilities and therefore start expressing each other's have to and would not’s . It is here that clashes start. Some spouses want a 50-50 sharing of responsibilities. Now this is ridiculous as they can seldom be so. The effort a woman can put into the household chores is not invariably possible for the man. The wife should understand and accept gladly the helping hand she gets from her husband. Misunderstandings arise when both the spouses are working. In such cases the couple can go for a helping hand like a domestic help or any relative who is ready to help them. Where they cannot afford a maid and both have no one from their side to come and help, household chores can be done briefly. Extra food can be cooked on holidays to substantiate for the week days. Cleaning and washing can be kept for the weekends. This may bring in a situation at home where both start complaining of 24x7 work schedule. To do away with the tedious routine the couple can plan some outings or a holiday trip. Eating out once in a while can be enjoyable. Travelling also refreshes the mind and body and the couple can come back to work with full energy. Financial contribution becomes a major issue when both partners are earning a good package. Contribution from both sides may be equal but at times there may be an imbalance. Most couples whether working with government or in the corporate sector do face financial problem where increment, revision of pay or incentives are concerned. At times the increase in pay of the wife may not be as that of the husband or vice versa. In such cases expecting equal contribution is unreasonable both in case of the husband or wife. In such a situation jeering, taunting at each other does not solve the problem. Rather both should talk over and take a decision on how they should manage the economic situation of the house. Expenditures that are not that necessary can be done away with. Some amount of sacrifice is necessary is such situation. The couple may have to cancel a holiday trip or some luxury shopping or going out partying. Cancellation may seem to make life drab, but such sacrifices go a long way in stabilizing their relationship. Where the wife earns less than the husband or the woman is a housewife it is the husband who takes the major financial burden. In such cases it becomes important for the wife to be very careful where financial expenses are concerned. Contribution can never be equal here. It may be a 40 to 60 ratio and for the unemployed wife her financial contribution to the family is nil. The husband need not throw up airs here or keep reminding his wife that she is not earning. This may lead to fights in the family and strain the relationship of couple. Financial balance is very important for a stable relationship.