Me Fat!
By eileenleyva
@eileenleyva (27555)
Philippines
February 14, 2020 12:36am CST
A fellow parent saw me at the bank and called me out, delightedly, I hoped. A brief chat ensued, both of us updated each other about our grown up children. Somehow, she managed to bring up the matter of money again. She was, by far, richer than poor me. And she loved to subtly condescend me each time about her being rich. But money is of no consequence to me. She knew that, too. So, she resorted to that truth I always get affected about - 'Why are you so fat?'
I am, actually! From the stress eating I subjected my self into. Securing documents for legal purposes is always overwhelming for me. So, a cheeseburger at the drive-thru, which became one too many, did satisfy my tummy and calmed my nerves.
Talk about what people who don't like you say to you. The truth.
Ha ha. Glad for this fellow parent's condescension.
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14 responses
@rsa101 (40946)
• Philippines
14 Feb 20
Well there are really people that can at times unwittingly insensitive about how others would feel when they want to converse with others. I really do not know why the first thing that comes out of their minds is the size of the person they are conversing with. Anyway Good that you have handled the situation well since for many who are in that situation may feel a bit offended by it.
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@rsa101 (40946)
• Philippines
14 Feb 20
@eileenleyva I think it's within our culture that besides the usual greeting of How are you? it usually comes with the weight or size appearance. I do not know but I too am greeted that way and sometimes I fall guilty of that one too.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
14 Feb 20
@rsa101 I only say that to family, especially my daughters. With friends and acquaintances, I do find ways to tell them subtly about their weight. Remarks could affect people psychologically.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
14 Feb 20
Have come to terms with my built and my size. I can easily shake off pounds, too.
I do agree with you that greeting someone by their weight appearance is unethical. I also believe that people who comment like this don't have much in their grey cells. Otherwise, they could come up with better ideas as response to 'Kumusta ka?'
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@sprite1950 (30461)
• Corsham, England
14 Feb 20
What a horrible woman. I think I would have said "why are you such a spiteful cow?". I would never ever make a personal remark like that to someone. It's unforgivable.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
14 Feb 20
Some people think that their money is an entitlement to put others down. To make their own selves feel superior.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
14 Feb 20
@sprite1950 Actually, I think it is just her thing - to make her self feel better.
Truth is, what she said was helpful for me.
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@sprite1950 (30461)
• Corsham, England
14 Feb 20
@eileenleyva I don't think anyone has ever spoken to me like that before and I'm not rich. Let Karma do it's job .. I'm sure it will 
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
20 Feb 20
Take no notice of her if you can help it she was not being polite saying that like that at all.
Its no affair of hers what you are like and what you are not.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
21 Feb 20
Yes, thank you. The comment did not affect me, but actually made me think that my weight gain could be detrimental to my physical being.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
22 Feb 20
@lovinangelsinstead21 Oh, she's actually able to keep her features svelte. Her wardrobe is that of a fashion model's.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
21 Feb 20
@eileenleyva
Even so its not her business to tell you how would she feel people telling her that?
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@besweet (9831)
• Ireland
14 Feb 20
I think she was very rude and disrespectful. Your body shape is your own problem, I am sure that you are aware of your weight. She just wanted to make you feel bad.
From my work colleagues I have noticed that they call each other "taba" very often. Is it common for you also?
Eating junk food and burgers is not good for our health, it's good to eliminate them from our diet. Exercising works much better for stress relief.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
17 Feb 20
Taba means fat. Yup, Filipinos actually are super conscious about weight. I find that shallow, though. Weight is personal. Body types differ.
Junk food has no place in my pantry. I am a daily milk drinker. That probably causes my weight gain.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
17 Feb 20
@besweet Yup, you are right, the drive thru cheeseburgers were the culprits. But all to my own doing.
Thanks for the reminder about junk food. I forgot the cheeseburgers were also junk.
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@besweet (9831)
• Ireland
17 Feb 20
@eileenleyva I mentioned junk food only because of the drive thru cheeseburger in your post, it's good that you are eating healthy. I find that having fruits and salad as side for my lunch helps me eat less and maintain steady weight.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
14 Feb 20
She just wants me to feel uncomfortable so she could feel good about her self. Some people are really like that. In fact, many people are like that.
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@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
14 Feb 20
@eileenleyva of course, they will uplift their own because they do not and cannot accept the truth of their flaws
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
17 Feb 20
@rakski Capitalizing on the weak points of others - yes, you are right.
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
14 Feb 20
Ouch, that is painful to hear. Waheehee.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
14 Feb 20
Actually, I am immune to such condescension. I know my self and unsavory remarks means nothing.
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
14 Feb 20
@eileenleyva that is good. At least you are not offended anymore.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
17 Feb 20
@Alexandoy Yes, I am not offended. Thank you.
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@yanzalong (19091)
• Indonesia
14 Feb 20
I don't like such an arrogant woman. There are many other richer ones but they hide their being rich.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
14 Feb 20
She couldn't do that to people richer than her. So she does it to me.
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
14 Feb 20
What's her business if you have gained weight. Don't these people realize that not every one is just disciplined when it comes loosing weight.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
14 Feb 20
Correct. My weight is none of her business. Will remember that. Next time I see her, I will tell her that. Ha ha
@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
17 Feb 20
It was a rude remark but I am not affected. Showed how insecure she was about her own self actually.
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@thelme55 (79311)
• Germany
18 Feb 20
@eileenleyva Yes, she is someone who feels happy telling people negatively about anything.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
17 Feb 20
Neither do I.
She needed the attention. An insecurity. A psychological disorder.
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@florelway (23339)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Feb 20
For almost a year now people have been telling me I've put on much weight, to cut them off I just say yes I did, so end of the story.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
17 Feb 20
Thanks for the tip. I will do the same.
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@ExplorewtMe (6332)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 Feb 20
Ohh, that was not a pleasant meeting.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
14 Feb 20
Taking all in stride. Sticks and stones could hurt my bones but......
