Wait.. what?
By C
@ShyBear88 (59342)
Sterling, Virginia
February 25, 2020 9:46pm CST
I saw this post on FB where this mom is asking if she is being overprotective of her middle school. Her daughter has a friend and her friends parents seem to drink a lot. The mom herself hates sleep overs so much so she doesn’t let her daughter sleep over at friends house or her daughter to have her friends spend the night.
Okay as a mom I get it I don’t like having other people’s kids sleep over at my house either but I know that is wrong of me to deny my child that right to build memories as well as bonds outside of our house. For a lot of kids there friends are like family they are the ones they lean on when we are not around. By judging a child based on there parent is wrong. How a parent is isn’t always a reflection of how or who a child will be a lot of children with bad parents become way better people because they have seen what not to do.
My response to this mother was let her daughter have a sleep over. If the girls do something together she doesn’t like then she doesn’t have to have that teen sleep over again. But to think about what this might benefit having her daughter’s friend over. Fostering a bond, let that teen know that she can also come to her friends parents for help.
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@Fa_Maverick (9491)
• Australia
26 Feb 20
I never went to sleepovers after the age of 10 unless it was a scouting thing. We would have a campfire dinner, watch a movie then sleep in the scout hall.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Feb 20
That is fine if you didn’t want to. This is about the mom not letting here daughter sleep over at others houses or her daughters friends sleep over eat there house. Ids a totally different thing if it was the daughter not wanting to.
@Fa_Maverick (9491)
• Australia
26 Feb 20
@ShyBear88 I did want to. It lead to social isolation and bullying because I was the weirdo that wasn't allowed to go to sleepovers.... The thing is though with my sleeping disorder I really didn't sleep much at all especially as a kid
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Feb 20
@Fa_Maverick that is an acceptation things like that are understand to no want or have sleep overs. I was bullied not to often as a kid for have a learn disability. I had my way of shutting up being. I’m natural an alpha time person so just my presents can be kind of intimidating. That abs by the time I got to middle school most people knew who my big brothers where and knew not to bug me unless they wanted there backs on the floor.
I hardly let my 5 year old sleep overs with anyone that ain’t family because he has a lot of food allergies
@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
26 Feb 20
I'm overprotective with my daughters that's why I let them host the sleep over. I'd rather see them having fun in our place.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Feb 20
That is great when your and overprotective parent but also understand that your child wants to have friend over for a night.
This is what the mother above I was talking about should do.
Myself as long as I feel I can trust the parents with my kids I have no problems with them sleeping over at other peoples houses. I would never have a problem with my kids friends sleeping overs unless I saw with my own eyes that child isn’t good for them then it would be a no.
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@RasmaSandra (97912)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Feb 20
I would also say to give it a try and if it does not work then never do it again. I had close friends sleepover when I was a child and we always enjoyed it even my mom
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Feb 20
I’m sure my parents didn’t enjoy it but they let me when we worked out which nice would be okay. My mom let me sleep over more at my friends house when I was a freshmen in high school. I was alone a lot because my dad worked in another state and my mom had crazy work hours. So some times it was best for me to spend the night with friends and there parents understood I was alone till my brother got kicked out of college and then he stayed home with me in the evenings.
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
26 Feb 20
Questions are really tough when it comes to parenting decisions
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Feb 20
I don’t think they do. A lot of it comes down to common knowledge, what will build character for your child. But also being human and knowing that not all people have good home life’s and there home lives are not a reflection on an individual.
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@Janet357 (75638)
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26 Feb 20
It suddenly reminds me of my husband's nephew.
his grandma did not allow him to sleep in his friend's house, the kid got angry. and so she allowed him one time.
from that time on, the kid has been doing it anytime he wants and he is just 15. there are times, he comes home at 12 am.
