Toxic Friendship, Love

Tweet

Note: Photo is of Skip, my Precious Husband ... my world. Sometimes we go through life getting used to adjusting our lives to accommodate someone else, please them ... give our best to ... to show we love them. It's sad when they begin to abuse you, over time it becomes unbearable yet ... you continue to give over to them while you suffer, you do without. Do you know what that person is called? A toxic person who is a parasite feeding off your unhappiness, your life to make theirs complete. As long as you continue to let them constantly abuse you by even simply staying in your life ... you are their hostage. Let go ... let go ... let go of them as soon as possible. Once you do, you will see yourself beginning to take deep sighs of relief. They were in essence squeezing your life out of you in order for them to live. Yes, they might hate you for waking up ... they never loved you to begin with to do such to you. You wouldn't do that to them ... would you? I was thinking of a friend Skip had some time ago who called him upwards to 10-18 times a day. It took me some time to discover that his 'friend' was mentally abusing him while he was very sick ... wasn't thinking clearly. His friend would call, use him for a beating post when he was angry. I made the discovery when one day I walked in ... I could hear his friend's voice screaming on the phone about what somebody did to him. Skip was sitting quietly, listening to him. It had been going on for so long and I didn't realize it. I began to step in ... preventing it from continuing. Skip didn't want me to hurt his friend's feelings. Skip kept having mini-strokes ... I know the friend's ravings contributed to them. Anyway ... to make a long story short ... today that friend doesn't get the opportunity to do that again. I won't allow it. Skip wasn't in any frame of mind to stop it himself ... if he had been 'himself' ... he'd would have put that friend in his place. I wonder if you have experienced such? I had an aunt many years ago who was toxic. It took years ... I removed her from my life ... plus all the bad feelings she made me feel. Toxic people aren't healthy. They will suck your life out to live. These are my observations, my feelings only. I'm no expert on anything but, my own life, my own little world.