Do you get offended easily?
By rappeter13
@rappeter13 (8608)
Romania
March 3, 2020 11:24am CST
When I was younger, I got offended by every little word that was against me. When I was a child, I even started fighting.
I think words had a powerful impact on me until one year ago. After I finished therapy, I had many unpleasant happenings in my life, that made me more selfish. The therapist said that I should be more selfish, because being a people-pleaser is going to ruin my life.
And I realized that this is true. Since those happenings, I don't get attached to people anymore and I become more detached from the people I was close to. And this means that it is hard to get into my calm, I get over offensive words and actions easily. I will tell my point of view, but I don't dwell on the happenings.
How about you? Do you get offended easily? What is your reaction when somebody hurts you?
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
3 Mar 20
I discovered that there were some people you just cannot please, no matter what you do. They are toxic. So I moved on. I don´t see much my brother and I never see my brother in law. But I have some wonderful friends that have "adopted" me. I am very much attached to them and they don´t hurt me.
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
4 Mar 20
@rappeter13 It happened to me too, from my brother and brother in law ( and some other people that were not as near. But there are other people I love dearly and I´m attached to them.
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@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
3 Mar 20
I think my detachment is a kind of defense. I know for sure that once I detach myself from a certain idea or person or anything, there is no way back.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 20
I choose to stay around people who are good to me. I try not to get offended but if someone is really pushing the limit again and again, I would avoid that person.
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@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
4 Mar 20
@arunima25 In the majority of the cases, this is a very good attitude. But I think there are times when people have to be confronted.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
4 Mar 20
@rappeter13 No. I don't waste my energy and time on such useless things any more. I have better things to do.
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@kareng (80243)
• United States
6 Mar 20
@rappeter13 Yep or placing blame on someone else that should be on theirs.
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@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
6 Mar 20
@kareng It is much easier to blame others than reflecting on our own flaws.
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@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
4 Mar 20
And they make a hobby out of pointing out things in others that they may also have.
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@sweetashoney (3597)
• United States
3 Mar 20
I think age also has a lot with being less offended by some things. I remember when I was growing up that my feeling could be easily hurt at times. I grew up during the 60's, during the time period were people could say mean and nasty things to whoever they wanted to and nothing was done about it. Even employers were able to treat their employees like that. I learned from an early age to dish it out as fast as they could and tried not to let what they said bother me. Now that I am a lot older, I have found that I could care less want people say to or about me. It's like I said, if push comes to shove, I can still sling it out! lol
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@sweetashoney (3597)
• United States
3 Mar 20
@rappeter13 I'm glad to hear that. Also you are right about needing to stop being a people pleaser, you need to live your life for yourself. I used to be the same way, trying to please everyone. I finally found that no matter what you do or how hard you try, your not going to please some people. So now I don't care what they think, it's my life, not theirs.
I look at it now kind of like the song by Bobby Brown "My Prerogative" where he says "I don't need permission to make my own decisions, That's my Prerogative to do what I want to do" lol
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@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
4 Mar 20
@sweetashoney I act based on my beliefs. I also try to keep the morals which are accepted by the community by centuries, but that's it. I am responsible for my own life, I take the consequences.
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@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
3 Mar 20
I am 30, but the year 2018 has changed me a lot and the first part of 2019. The deceiving I received from people who were close to me have made me strong and I reconsidered my way of being. I matured a lot during the last two years.
@besweet (9831)
• Ireland
4 Mar 20
@rappeter13 I don't get back, I will just ignore these people for ever. 
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@Iam_jauntyjen (5452)
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4 Mar 20
It depends. If the person belittling or criticizing me is more stupid than I am. They will get the taste of their own medicine. When I was in college, a classmate had been saying that I was dumb. There was one incident when she jokingly hit me on my nape. We were not even close. So I confronted her.
There was also one incident where I smacked a woman on her back. I and my husband were inside a passenger jeepney. There were three girls behind the driver laughing and making hand gestures pretending they were doing deaf language signs. They weren't aware that I knew they could talk because we had been in a same room. When they got off, I smacked one of the girls hard on her back. To her surprise, she forgot that she was just pretending to be mute.
Most of the time, I just ignore nasty comments on how I look.
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@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
4 Mar 20
In my case, it also depends on who the other person is. But, even if I confront them, I don't really dwell on it. I let them know what I have to say and then, move on.
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
4 Mar 20
I guess it is inevitable to have some differences with loved ones, too. And that is okay. Opinion of strangers doesn't matter.
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@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
3 Mar 20
Probably you could work on it. It is hard to live life with emotional weakness.
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