You can have many spouses or even change them but you only have one mother or parents

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We usually hear this kind of saying in which technically and literally it is true. However some old parents can take advantage of this saying as emotional blackmail to their children or can be abusive to the situation to make the children feel guilty. At some point because of this there are other children who are affected of this kind of saying and still can be affected of their mother or father's emotional blackmail that is why it can affect or even destroy their children's romantic relationship with their partner. At times because of this it can lead to marital problems. There are too many repercussions. It means that there are people who are doesn't have the wide perspective about marriage. Then why in the first place should they marry if they still have the guilt feeling about you can only have parents and your parents will be your priority in finances? Here in the Philippines the giving back to parents is a culture where in fact it is a toxic culture to the marriage of their children like they already have mother and child but the husband would still choose to prioritize his mother in finances and everything else just because his mother is still the authority. If you believe that blood is thicker than water then why involving other people and make them crucify in your hands? You can change your spouse just because of the following..... 1. You lack perspective about what is the responsibility of marriage. 2. You are not even man enough or strong woman to leave your parents but still hiding to their shadow 3. You are in abusive situation 4. You have irreconcilable differences 5. You have infidelity issues Many more reasons that it can happen but then if you are wise enough to choose a partner and seriously can marry then would you still think that changing the spouse will still apply? As well as if your perspective is about choosing a partner that can be with you for the rest of your lives, willing to cooperate with the responsibilities, priorities and other concerns then changing spouse will not ever happen unless you were too young to be a widow. Honestly speaking if you are not married and only having relationship it would be easy to find another partner even if you have a kid because you are not yet legal to be together even in papers. But then if you are legally married then I believe changing spouse like changing clothes is no longer a joke and it is a long process, at some point you will need court cases because of this so it is hassle. It is like the parents who are making emotional blackmail wants to possess their children forever because of the investment child mentality or making them as their care giver when they got old. It is also mean that they don't wish their children to get married and be happy. So in the first place how did they also got married? If the mentality of parents are like this they are also the reasons why there are marital problems and I wonder if they don't feel the guilt because of this.