Feeling Really Hurt
By Jimmy Cannon
@jimmy423 (245)
Davison, Michigan
March 17, 2020 11:44pm CST
So I found out the mother of my child who I am not with and have liked and loved all these years has gotten pregnant by someone else. It is really sad cause she is unhappy with the guy she is with and also is unhappy with herself. My heart aches for her, I am not sure why we never worked out. I just wish there were answers, I wish I did not have to feel this way. She was the girl I have known since we were kids and we were high school sweet hearts. I do not understand life and why I have to go through so much pain and suffering.
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@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
18 Mar 20
Sadly sometimes love doesn't always work out the way we want but we all eventually move on. Sometimes things don't work out the way we want but they work out the way we need them to. If you're meant to be with her you will be and if not you'll eventually move on and be with who you're meant to be with. I know they're not words of comfort but to make a relationship work you need two people willing to put in the work and if she doesn't want it she isn't going to work at it. This doesn't mean she doesn't or didn't love you but maybe just not the kind of love you need/needed. Some people have to go through life learning everything the hard way to see what they really had.
Regardless no one deserves to be miserable and maybe she'll eventually figure out what it takes to be happy but she has to figure it out on her own. When someone makes terrible choice after terrible choice it often means they're still figuring themselves out and what it is they want in life and that sometimes means making choices you wouldn't wish for them but they need to live and learn in order to be able to figure it out. Even if this child is by a person who makes her miserable the child themselves can be a blessing. My mom had 7 kids by 4 different men and while she didn't care for the men she loves all of us and wouldn't trade us for anything and we were the reasons she ultimately left those men because she knew we deserved better and she deserved better. In order for us to be happy she needed to be happy.
I know it hurts to see people we love making these choices but ultimately we need to accept their choices and just hope and pray they figure their lives out. I hope she finds what makes her happy and that you can find someone who also makes you happy whether it's her or not is up to the both of you but eventually you'll find someone who makes you happy.
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@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
19 Mar 20
@jimmy423 You're welcome, I'm glad you found it comforting. I think sometimes we just need perspective and to give ourselves time to really think about things. When kids are involved that always makes things more difficult because we have to think about them before ourselves. We all have some tough things in our lives that we have to get through in order to get to where we need to be but it's worth it in the end. I'm sure you'll get through it and get to a better place before you know it. I've been with my husband 11 years and am raising a nine year old and we have been through some stuff but we always work it out because we both wanted to but sometimes we both had to take a breather and get our acts together and realize what was most important which was our son of course and also the love we shared. Like I said what's meant to happen will happen. Hopefully, she'll realize what she had before it's too late but even if not you have your daughter together and you can focus on her and when you find the right person for you you'll be ready.
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@Lavanya15 (12888)
• Chennai, India
19 Mar 20
Really your story heart touching. I can understand what is your mental health condition on seeing all those. But you face all those from your strong heart. Keep going. Don't think about your past, just happy on seeing your future golden days.
@lazydaizee (6738)
• United Kingdom
18 Mar 20
The best thing to do in this situation is to make sure your child is okay. Children must always come first. It is sad to see that you are so unhappy about your ex , but you must give yourself time to get over her. Keeping in touch with your child will bring you joy.
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@resukill22 (25052)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
18 Mar 20
Sorry to hear that, why you broke up?
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@resukill22 (25052)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
19 Mar 20
@jimmy423 oh I see, so after that why you not two been together again
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@jimmy423 (245)
• Davison, Michigan
19 Mar 20
@resukill22 she ended up finding the guy shes with now and we really never got around to actually trying to get back together. It is a very complicating situation.
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@pitsipeahie (4292)
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18 Mar 20
You still love her? That's just life, it doesnt always gives answer and it just doesnt always happen the way we want it to be.
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@Ladanger (14582)
• United States
18 Mar 20
Wow that must be the worse to get pregnant and not happy. I am on a birth control and won’t stop until I am sure that I want a kid with someone . That even if it doesn’t work out with a guy that I am ready for a child and want one. This is why we have to use protection etc.
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@jimmy423 (245)
• Davison, Michigan
19 Mar 20
Yeah it's the worse.
Shes 25 and he is 38. Very big age difference and the thing was he never wanted kids and now this happened. I'll always be there for her I know that much. Shes the mother of my daughter and I'll never abandon her.
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@Lavanya15 (12888)
• Chennai, India
19 Mar 20
Don't feel sad, in each our life we face like those problems very frequently. So just take as a challenge all those, and prove your self.
