Should we have to remember them?

@birjudanak (14325)
India
July 3, 2020 10:17am CST
Hello to All, There are some people who like to ask things because they need of it but once they got that things they not return it until we tell them 4-5 times. During this pandemic i gave my spare charger to a person who need it because he was stuck at home and cant go to his main home. He told me for few days but now it's 3 month passed but still not returning it. People ask things because they need it but they not interested to return even we need them badly. Same thing happens when we landed money as people not interested to return. I don't like this kind of people and not give again next time anything even he need it badly or his work stopped. I don't like who cant stay on their promises and if they have problem they can tell but wait for us to tell them 3-4 times.
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• India
3 Jul 20
That's what I hate too. People love to borrow things but don't return back on their own
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
3 Jul 20
Yeah we always have to remind them that it's our thing which they not returned.
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• India
3 Jul 20
Absolutely! I can completely understand how you're feeling because I get pissed off too with such people. Earlier I used to hesitate to ask or remind them. But then I realized I'm not doing anything wrong if I do so! It's they who needs to feel shame and not me. First time I felt uncomfortable thinking what if they feel offended and misunderstand me or backbite about me. But trust me, nothing like that happens!! So now I just directly ask them to return my stuff if I feel a considerable time has passed already.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
3 Jul 20
Generally we can understand someone has problems and we gave because they need but what we do if we need that thing and its not with us. We purchase things for our own use but if its not useful then what we do. I don't like to remind them but when patience over, i need to tell them and make my mind that i will not return whatever trouble he has. We give things because we thought they will return but not doing anything untill we remind them.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
3 Jul 20
@Miracle_Maya Yes they don't care if we not remind them and some are keep waiting that if we remind then will give return otherwise not. People forget that we helped them when they needed.
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• India
3 Jul 20
@birjudanak That's my point as well. If we have to discourage this habit then we too need to take some step so that they won't take advantage of our courtesy. Right?
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
4 Jul 20
Some people are ungrateful . These are the type of people that doesn't deserve our help.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
4 Jul 20
Yes they remember us while they need but not remember when we need them.
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@DianneN (246458)
• United States
4 Jul 20
My father always said neither a borrower or lender be. Wise words. I never lend money, but will give it voluntarily if necessary.
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@DianneN (246458)
• United States
4 Jul 20
@birjudanak I agree! Only once has a relative asked for money, but at the time we couldn't afford it. Now he makes more money than we do. Necessity is the mother of invention.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
5 Jul 20
@DianneN Yes its OK as they also know we have not much and in relation money create big problem os always have to be careful. Some people ask small things but they never interested to return.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
4 Jul 20
Yes i also not like to do but sometimes in relation we can't say no straightly. When things are small then still OK as we know them but when they even not staying on their words next time definitely big no to them.
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@Hannihar (128841)
• Israel
9 Jul 20
@birjudanak I think it is very inconsiderate that if you lend someone money or things that they should either pay it back or give something back to you and not keep it. There are those that will pay the money back or return things to you and others forget or just do not care.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
9 Jul 20
Yes in money we will get to see people heart and image that what kind of it. When they want they keep lying against us but when time comes to pay then avoid us. Mostly money create problem but when things are small like mobile charger we cant strightly say no.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
9 Jul 20
@Hannihar Yes if they not returned before then sure will not give again whatever they are because sure second thing also not get return. When their return time comes then they are disappear.
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@Hannihar (128841)
• Israel
9 Jul 20
@birjudanak I still say small or big if people do not respect you enough to return what they borrowed then it is very sad and I would never lend them anything again..
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
3 Jul 20
Yes I really don't like when people try to survive on others' stuff.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
4 Jul 20
Yeah you are right, they survive on our thing and we useful them on their needed time but sometimes we need to bag for our own thing.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
9 Jul 20
@ShifaLk Yes it's true as when they do not give even after saying many times then we need to say loudly and it may create a fight.
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
9 Jul 20
@birjudanak yes and when we ask for our own things definitely a fight occurs there.... so it's better not to give
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@kanuck1 (4363)
3 Jul 20
Yes, there are people who borrow things and promise to return or repay quickly and then quickly forget what they said they would do.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
3 Jul 20
Yes exactly they said that kind of words because they urgency for that thing but when they got, they forget everything and not return until we remind them.
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@psanasangma (5821)
• India
4 Jul 20
There are people who will burrow money I will return on this and that day but instead I need remind them .. since then I stop trusting people and never give them anything to this kind of people
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
4 Jul 20
Yes same here as once they can't stay at their words then I will not give again even they need it or its a big trouble. we earn for us and our family. If that money not useful to us then why we should have to earn it.
@jstory07 (132841)
• Roseburg, Oregon
4 Jul 20
I will nor loan money to anyone. If they really need something I will buy it for them.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
4 Jul 20
Yes during loan money need to be more aware because it also creates problem in relation.
@thelme55 (76152)
• Germany
3 Jul 20
I hate that kind of people who borrowed things and money without returning them. Those who have done that to me were not able to borrow again from me.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
3 Jul 20
Yes Same here as though its small things but if they can't return it on their own words then i will not give anything again even they needed it.
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@Janet357 (75681)
3 Jul 20
I know that feeling and that is frustrating. But i think the worst case.is when someone borrows money from you and you have to.remind him to pay.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
3 Jul 20
Yes its very frustrating and due to money there are many problems create. I don't like to give money to anyone as i have ones very bad experience.
@Sathyabo (866)
3 Jul 20
I have experienced like this many times. I hate those kind of people and I don't like to deal with them.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
3 Jul 20
I also hate those kind of people as they not like to return others thing. They wait for us to remind them.
@rhuenz (10650)
4 Jul 20
I don't like that kind of person too. They want to borrow something,after giving them they don't know how to return.If you ask them then they have the guts to get angry, or sometimes they will make many excuses.Hu!what mean thinking this people are.So next time better not to entertain such people.Ignore,they will just give head ache.haha.
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@birjudanak (14325)
• India
4 Jul 20
Yes, you are right and when we ask them to return then they said it's spare and why you need it as let me use. They said they will return in 2 days but not return even after 2 months. when they live far than also not pick up calls because they know why we called. such mean people.