Bed Time, I Need Counselling
By SHOHANA
@SHOHANA (16094)
Bangladesh
August 14, 2020 12:23pm CST
Its time to say Good night. But it is not a good night to me yet. I'm feeling really very bad. I need counselling from you all. I'm in a relationship with a boy since last 3 years but we are in long distance relationship. I was honest to him, he is also honest to me, even I want to be honest and stay honest. I started liking someone else because my bf is not around me. I'm feeling so bad that how can I like someone else when he is in my life?
The 2nd person seems like me as his body language indicate. And I told it to my boyfriend. Now my bf started suspecting me, today we had arguments, he is avoiding me.
What should I do?
Am I bad?
Is it wrong to tell my bf everything?
I can't sleep, what should I do? Should I avoid the 2nd person I'm liking?
I want to stay single for the lifetime now because having a man in life is painful.
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13 responses
@MALUSE (69409)
• Germany
14 Aug 20
@sunil4ya I can tell you what this means because I had one, too. It means that boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife don't live together for a certain time but in different parts of the country or even in different countries. They have to travel to be together. It depends on the jobs they have who visits who.
It's certainly not ideal but doable for a certain amount of time. My husband and I managed it.
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@happylife1 (13404)
• Karachi, Pakistan
14 Aug 20
Yes secret should remain secret
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@popciclecold (35452)
• United States
14 Aug 20
Its good to be hones, but not to your own hurt. There is a time and place for everything. Timing is very important.
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@popciclecold (35452)
• United States
15 Aug 20
@SHOHANA But be prayerful, the Lord loves you. He will lead you in right timing.
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@SHOHANA (16094)
• Bangladesh
15 Aug 20
@popciclecold I believe so, thank you so much for those healing words 
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@snowy22315 (170596)
• United States
14 Aug 20
I think you should be honest with person 1 and say you are having a hard time with the distance. Is there anyway you can see each other more than you are? IF you can't..maybe it is time to let it go. How long does he expect you to wait around?
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@snowy22315 (170596)
• United States
14 Aug 20
@SHOHANA Well that is awfully vague...six weeks, six months?? You can't keep your life on hold forever.
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@SHOHANA (16094)
• Bangladesh
15 Aug 20
@snowy22315 but I'm honest and he always telling me that he is with me so I shouldn’t be worried. I don't know what to do. 
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@hillhjill (23664)
• United States
14 Aug 20
I'm sorry you're going through this and I've been there. It's possible that the heart can love two people at once, but I've always heard that if someone comes into your life when you are with another and you fall for the other person then you are losing feelings for the one your with..but just follow your heart.
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@hillhjill (23664)
• United States
14 Aug 20
@SHOHANA you're welcome and I hope you get some rest.
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@SHOHANA (16094)
• Bangladesh
14 Aug 20
@hillhjill I hope do dear, I need peace in life and staying alone is sometimes the best decision
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@crossbones27 (48480)
• Mojave, California
15 Aug 20
No , but never hurts, point of having a boyfriend is to tell them everything even though they miss it and sometimes do not want to hear it, but bet he loves it because knows you being straight up with him. All most people ever ask of anyone.
@LindaOHio (157337)
• United States
15 Aug 20
You are young and single. Date whomever you like; but don't lead your boyfriend along. Break up with him if you begin liking the 2nd person better. Having a man in your life can be painful; but it also can be wonderful. My husband and I have been married for almost 50 years. Have a good day.
