We have an extended family
@iKONICNoona (4403)
Philippines
September 30, 2020 5:13am CST
That is my sister's house being constructed at the side of our house. It is not yet finished and my mom is funding the construction. I am thinking what will be the outcome when its done. She has a partner and I can see that thete are no plans of them getting married yet.My sister is a single mom and to be honest I dont feel good about this man my sister is inlove with. Is having an extended family good? My sister is my mom's favorite and I have a bad feeling about the guy , I wish it is just on my mind .Just letting things all out because they would think Im jealous if I confide in them about my worries.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
30 Sep 20
Your worries are not unfounded. Your sister needs scolding, and guidance. Your mother is doing her best to resolve your sister's scandalous situation. Her remedy though is faulty. But it is the best solution for her right now. The man must also be reprimanded. If he truly loves your sister, he must make an honest woman out of her by marrying her. If not, your sister was conned. And your mother, too.
But don't be harsh with your dealings with the stranger who came in your family. Just be wary.
Resolve this predicament by being a good person. Strive to be your best and live your life the right way.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
1 Oct 20
@iKONICNoona A decade is long enough a time to dwell with a family and still be aloof towards the members.
He's a rascal from my point of view, taking advantage of all of you.
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@iKONICNoona (4403)
• Philippines
1 Oct 20
@eileenleyva Thank you very much for the advice.Yes, you are right mom is just helping and I can feel that but in a wrong way. I am civil with my sister's boyfriend they've been a couple for I think 10 years now and I am not sure if they have plans because they are not talking about it.Whenever he goes here afterwork he just shows respect to mom greet her and then go straight to where my sister's room is , he never make or initiate a conversation with us here in the house and its fine with us .We call him if its eating time so that he can join us .
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@iKONICNoona (4403)
• Philippines
2 Oct 20
@eileenleyva To be honest my mom's sister , my aunt doesnt approve of their relationship too but we respect them also. Some cousins doesnt approve too but we cant do anything for now my sister is deeply in love with the guy .
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@Overflowing (3709)
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30 Sep 20
why would they think your jealous if you confide it?for me its kinda showing your concern.,maybe you can tell your mom first as well as your hoping that maybe its just on your mind,at least your open..but still its all up to you if your gonna tell or not..maybe just keep on observing for awareness..your sister is so bless that your mother funding the extension ma friend,and i do hope your fine i havent seen you for a while
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@iKONICNoona (4403)
• Philippines
2 Oct 20
@Overflowing oh thank you friend I am fine .I am just busy with chores this days.My sister is the favorite daughter thats why I thought they might think Im jealous. But for now I am just observing quietly .Thank you friend.
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@rakski (156605)
• Philippines
2 Oct 20
@iKONICNoona yes, just stay that way. So they will not say anything to you
@iKONICNoona (4403)
• Philippines
2 Oct 20
@rakski Exactly what I am doing .But I am not being nosy , Im just quiet and observing.
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@iKONICNoona (4403)
• Philippines
2 Oct 20
@DianneN yes, you are right .I just want to let it out. She is the favorite daughter and I am used to that and its just okay.I just dont like what I see whenever her boyfriend goes home here .My mom's sister, my aunt doesnt approve of their relationship too but we respect them also.
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
30 Sep 20
I do agree that you are correct in many ways. But sometimes life does not allow us woth any option and we have to get along with the wave
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@iKONICNoona (4403)
• Philippines
2 Oct 20
@amitkokiladitya Yes, they say it takes time to accept some things ..and I am not closing my doors for any possibility ..
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
30 Sep 20
I hope you are wrong regarding the man since it is your sister future on the line...
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@iKONICNoona (4403)
• Philippines
2 Oct 20
@simplfred I hope so too that what Im feeling is wrong, the house construction as of now has stopped for a while because of the pandemic.
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
2 Oct 20
@iKONICNoona I know they will not make a house if they are not serious with each other...
@iKONICNoona (4403)
• Philippines
2 Oct 20
@Janet357 thank you. I have been thinking about talking it out with my sis but Im still waiting for the perfect time . Thank you very much for responding.
