My martyr sailor friend
By jdbc
@jdbces (1843)
Philippines
October 24, 2020 10:06pm CST
Lately I don't know if I would feel pity or annoyed with one of my high school friend. He had been a sailor for quite a while. He's on vacation and thinking of not going back to sailing. For one reason, staying close to a cheating wife that he dearly love.
I am not entitled to force him to any "wise" decision but now the wife is pregnant and he is denying that it's the baby of the other guy.
What a fool. He is so nice and kind but hopefully these won't all backfire at the end. Guess he's willing to take responsibility for a 2nd child (which a lot of people thinks unfortunately is not his). Don't judge me here. I want to know what would you do if you're in his place.
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@Fa_Maverick (9491)
• Australia
25 Oct 20
Noone deserves to be cheated on. But it could still be his kid... there is always a paternity test
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@jdbces (1843)
• Philippines
25 Oct 20
@JimBo452020 He actaully told us that the wife did. Not actually the first time but 3rd. This time more complicated because of baby on the way which he is hiding how many weeks even if no one is asking. After 2 days, a photo uploaded of his bruised hand both sides but after that he stopped confiding.
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@Fa_Maverick (9491)
• Australia
25 Oct 20
@JimBo452020 As I said it could be his kid still and there is always a paternity test if they still suspect it. To be fair even though the sailor said she cheated doesn't mean she has.. I'm sure Bones accused me of cheating but I didn't.
@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
27 Oct 20
He loves his wife. I will let him be.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
28 Oct 20
@jdbces We can only give advice. Still the prerogative of the husband how to save his marriage. The vow is 'for better for worse.'
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@jdbces (1843)
• Philippines
28 Oct 20
@eileenleyva I also told him before that he has to consider their child. It's just that if I am a man and my woman is impregnated by another man, it would shatter me to pieces. He stopped confiding and I think he probably wants to solve it without being bothered by other people's advice. I guess, if he also really want to save the marriage, always better to keep the problem within the family. I wish him strength and guidance from above.
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@DianneN (247157)
• United States
25 Oct 20
Welcome to myLot!
I hope you love it here as much as I do.
Personally, I would mind my own business and stay out of his difficulties in his marriage with a cheating wife. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
I wouldn't be in his place, so can't offer any advice.
I hope you love it here as much as I do.
Personally, I would mind my own business and stay out of his difficulties in his marriage with a cheating wife. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
I wouldn't be in his place, so can't offer any advice.1 person likes this
@Nakitakona (58463)
• Philippines
31 Oct 20
Well, people nowadays are too practical. It's up for him to take the child or not or to leave his wife. It all depends on him.
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@Nakitakona (58463)
• Philippines
1 Nov 20
@jdbces That's it. Never mind their own business for they know actually what they're doing which is right or wrong.
@rsa101 (40463)
• Philippines
27 Oct 20
For now, I guess the best you can do is let them be. I think if your friend has decided to stay with her and accept the truth about the child then who are we to judge them. I think let your friend decide what is best for him and his family.
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@erictsuma (9726)
• Mombasa, Kenya
25 Oct 20
I just can't accept a baby that I know very well that is not mine
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@happylife1 (13403)
• Karachi, Pakistan
25 Oct 20
Let this take you as your fantasy
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