My martyr sailor friend
By jdbc
@jdbces (1847)
Philippines
October 24, 2020 10:06pm CST
Lately I don't know if I would feel pity or annoyed with one of my high school friend. He had been a sailor for quite a while. He's on vacation and thinking of not going back to sailing. For one reason, staying close to a cheating wife that he dearly love.
I am not entitled to force him to any "wise" decision but now the wife is pregnant and he is denying that it's the baby of the other guy.
What a fool. He is so nice and kind but hopefully these won't all backfire at the end. Guess he's willing to take responsibility for a 2nd child (which a lot of people thinks unfortunately is not his). Don't judge me here. I want to know what would you do if you're in his place.
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@Fa_Maverick (9458)
• Australia
25 Oct 20
Noone deserves to be cheated on. But it could still be his kid... there is always a paternity test
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@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
25 Oct 20
Fae
Did you read a reply to me.
No proof the wife cheated
And sailor boy never said she had.
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@jdbces (1847)
• Philippines
25 Oct 20
@JimBo452020 He actaully told us that the wife did. Not actually the first time but 3rd. This time more complicated because of baby on the way which he is hiding how many weeks even if no one is asking. After 2 days, a photo uploaded of his bruised hand both sides but after that he stopped confiding.
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@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
25 Oct 20
Did he actually say
The reason for him maybe not going back to sailing was to stay close to a cheating wife he dearly loved?
This is important, did he actually say that?
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@Fa_Maverick (9458)
• Australia
25 Oct 20
That's what I thought... If he said that he is blind but I mean love is blind and maybe his partner needs to do a bit more growing up mentally... Usually I would say people don't just cheat usually it is because they aren't having their needs met but I have changed my tune because some people do just cheat.
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@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
25 Oct 20
@Fa_Maverick
Yeah like they need to cheat!!!
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@Fa_Maverick (9458)
• Australia
25 Oct 20
@JimBo452020 Yeh see the thing that changed my mind about "people cheat cause they don't have their needs met" was Bones told me he could see the appeal in cheating when we were together cause I wasn't physically in his company enough... Thing is though he had nothing else in his life so what else was he going to do... Either way he tried to play it off as being the victim because I was busy trying to advance my academic career and have a life because I have so much reason to live... He didn't and when I wasn't around he was just waiting to die...
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
27 Oct 20
He loves his wife. I will let him be.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
28 Oct 20
@jdbces We can only give advice. Still the prerogative of the husband how to save his marriage. The vow is 'for better for worse.'
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@jdbces (1847)
• Philippines
28 Oct 20
@eileenleyva I also told him before that he has to consider their child. It's just that if I am a man and my woman is impregnated by another man, it would shatter me to pieces. He stopped confiding and I think he probably wants to solve it without being bothered by other people's advice. I guess, if he also really want to save the marriage, always better to keep the problem within the family. I wish him strength and guidance from above.
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@DianneN (247105)
• United States
25 Oct 20
Welcome to myLot!
I hope you love it here as much as I do.
Personally, I would mind my own business and stay out of his difficulties in his marriage with a cheating wife. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
I wouldn't be in his place, so can't offer any advice.
I hope you love it here as much as I do.
Personally, I would mind my own business and stay out of his difficulties in his marriage with a cheating wife. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
I wouldn't be in his place, so can't offer any advice.1 person likes this
@happylife1 (13404)
• Karachi, Pakistan
25 Oct 20
Let this take you as your fantasy
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@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
27 Oct 20
For now, I guess the best you can do is let them be. I think if your friend has decided to stay with her and accept the truth about the child then who are we to judge them. I think let your friend decide what is best for him and his family.
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@erictsuma (9726)
• Mombasa, Kenya
25 Oct 20
I just can't accept a baby that I know very well that is not mine
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@Nakitakona (56302)
• Philippines
31 Oct 20
Well, people nowadays are too practical. It's up for him to take the child or not or to leave his wife. It all depends on him.
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@Nakitakona (56302)
• Philippines
31 Oct 20
@jdbces That's it. Never mind their own business for they know actually what they're doing which is right or wrong.
