Apology to someone that didn't deserve an apology....
By Ritik roshan
@Raj7779 (3657)
Canada
November 11, 2020 8:47pm CST
Twice this week, within the space of two days I have apologized when it wasn't even my fault and afterwards I am like kicking myself for being so damn weak and stupid! I mean if it wasn't my fault then why should I apologize?
Am I the only one who does this?
I just want a quiet, unconfrontational life and rather than cause an atmosphere or create a confrontation that I avoid at all costs, I will give in and apologize and yet the two people I apologized to, didn't even have the grace to accept my apology in the way it was given, they were in the wrong in the first damn place and yet their attitude stunk which left me feeling afterwards why did I bother?
I used to do this when I was a teen, I would cross swords with my father so many times, but I am a stubborn whatsit, I would refuse to apologize to my father even though I was in the right and yet because it caused a bad atmosphere my mum used to beg me to apologize to him, and I hated that.... I couldn't understand why I had to apologize for something that wasn't my fault Do you do this? Apologize just to keep the peace? Or feel it's always down to you to apologize first?
Have you ever had to make an apology which stuck in your throat, and you would rather walk over burning hot coals in bare feet than stoop to apologizing to someone that didn't deserve an apology?
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6 responses
@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
16 Nov 20
Yes I don't know why we have to apologize when we are not wrong.
but believe me now we are in the same boat.
I have also faced such things..
people take advantage of us when we are down, so very sad.... Even right now also I'm upset over something
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@Raj7779 (3657)
• Canada
12 Nov 20
We like a quiet life my friend, that is the trouble and yes we kick ourselves afterwards but consider the alternatives, getting our blood pressure up, making ourselves ill in the process and getting angry and full of angst, is that worth it? For just one or two words? Which you don't have to mean but keeps the peace and our sanity intact!
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@Raj7779 (3657)
• Canada
12 Nov 20
Sometimes just a few words can save so much ill-feeling and uncomfortable situations for us, mainly for them, we are the better ones after all as we are much more sensitive to others, so I realize this is actually a strength and not a weakness. It's just that some will exploit it
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@kaylachan (58115)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
12 Nov 20
It doesn't matter if you're in the right or wrong, the bigger person usually apologizes first. A lot of us, myself included, have apologized when we didn't have to. We do it, because deep down we know it's the right thing to do.
@Raj7779 (3657)
• Canada
12 Nov 20
Sometimes just a simple apology can save so much hurt, misery and unpleasantness especially if you live with someone or your loved ones.
@Namelesss (3368)
• United States
12 Nov 20
I think a lot of people are apologists. It's sad though because instigators just love apologists.
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@Cheyee (8362)
• Pakanbaru, Indonesia
12 Nov 20
It's not weak and stupid. It shows that you are a better person. You become mature.
Lucky me, I never experienced something like that.
