Giving money to the parents as part of giving back their obligation is an issue.
By Metatronik
@Metatronik (6199)
Pasay, Philippines
December 12, 2020 8:22pm CST
Do you still give money to your parents and how often is it monthly or just as a gift?
Why do you still give money to your parents?
Is it a big issue that you give money or not to your parents and why?
Are your parents obliging you to give your money or salary to them just because they are old and because they have done their obligation to you as their parents?
I've been reading a lot of issues on facebook about giving finances to parents as part of giving back or being grateful. It is a toxic culture in our country because most of the people are grown up that their parents will always point our to the faces of their children that they work hard and even sacrificed for the needs of their children. That is why usually there are some parents who are obliging their children to give back and spend their salary for the needs of their parents. Other parents are even demanding enough even if their children are married they won't let them go because of the financial issue. They are setting much expectation to their children.
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6 responses
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
13 Dec 20
Sadly, this is one aspect of our culture that I do not agree. Their children are not their retirement plans. Helping the parents out when they are able and can afford to do so is one thing; obliging them to give financial aid even though they already have their own families and obligations, and at times limited resources, is another.
My parents still work, and they do not oblige me. Even though most people there would think they have an American son in law, and they have a daughter who works in the US. I give some money to my parents and siblings but only when I feel like it or during special occasions, like birthdays or Christmas. I don't like being obliged because they never have to ask, I will willingly help out when needed.
I gifted my parents house and lots, and also my 4 younger siblings. Everyone in my family works despite these gifts because they know that they are responsible for their own future, not me or anybody else.
I hope this culture of ours change.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
28 Dec 20
It is easy to give and even more if you don't feel the obligation and you are not force to do it. I just don't like the idea of being force that I should give. It lessens my initiative to give.
@kaylachan (57726)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13 Dec 20
My parents have both passed on. While they never did expect my family to pay them, my one sister moved back home after she lost her husband to raise her daughter. No, it was my sister who stole from me and expected my hard earned cash to help pay the bills. Once I realized what was happening, I found my way out.
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
13 Dec 20
Do you still give money to your parents and how often is it monthly or just as a gift? Yes, I still give money. I give them a monthly allowance of sorts.
Why do you still give money to your parents? To help them out.
Is it a big issue that you give money or not to your parents and why? No, not an issue at all.
Are your parents obliging you to give your money or salary to them just because they are old and because they have done their obligation to you as their parents? No, they do not. At the onset, my mom doesn't accept the money that I was giving. Eventually, she did but I do not ask how she spends it.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
13 Dec 20
i have many siblings. some do, some don't.
me, i buy things for them that they need or helps them, or shoulder some expenses.
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@RasmaSandra (73472)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13 Dec 20
I think if grown children can give some money to their parents then that is a good thing but it should not have to be an obligation. I used to always share money with my mom when she was alive and if she needed money I would always give her some. I no longer have parents and I sure miss my mom lots.
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