This is Weird But...
By Raine38
@Raine38 (12387)
United States
December 17, 2020 1:18pm CST
...my husband's ex-girlfriend sent me a Christmas gift. Let me back-up a little bit.
Before my husband and I started dating, he was going out with this woman from another town about 3 hours away. She is also from the Philippines. Let's say things did not work out for them, and she is one of those typical crazy exes that my husband had to replace all his door locks and even change the program and passkey for his garage door. They dated for a little over 6 months back in 2012 or 2013. My husband and I started to go out in 2014.
Now since we have a small Filipino community here, everyone is familiar with everyone, including their spouses or partners. So when news of my husband and I dating reached her, she went ballistic. Started with subtle insults on social media, then outright insults. When this did not produce the reactions that she's wanting from us, she proceeded with directly messaging us, even going as far as using a different number. I think I still have her very long message in my inbox. Until she got tired, then started to befriend us. She finally left us alone last year because word on the street is, she has gotten married.
Imagine my surprise when I received a Christmas gift from her. Inside the box is a pair of Victoria's Secret pajamas and a Christian book. It's creepy that she got my size right! My husband told me that if it was up to him he will pitch it. I don't really want to throw it away, maybe I can donate these to Goodwill. But this gesture is really odd. There is no card or letter, just that it's tfor me, sent to our address, and it's from her.
Unfortunately, there is no return address, just a postage that it is from another town. I really do not want to reach out to her about the gifts, she put us through hell with her stalking and witch hunt. I don't want to start a line of communication between us.
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@kaylachan (84780)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Dec 20
I can't say I blame you. Maybe it's her way of appoligizing? Or a sign she's still stocking. Hard to say for sure, really.
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@kaylachan (84780)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Dec 20
@Raine38 I can see your reasoning behind that. I would agree, that is a bit strange. Can you be sure it's her? But, not a bad idea to return it.
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@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
17 Dec 20
@kaylachan She's the only one we know who has that name and last name. She even put down her 2 first names. I'll see if I can reach out to a few of my friends who I can trust who might be able to help. Worse case scenario, I will keep this unused, and when there's an opportunity to return it, I will.
Or I'll go ahead and donate to charity.
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@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
17 Dec 20
I would like to think that is her reason as well for sending the gift. But why to me only when she inconvenienced the both of us? I'll ask our mailman if this can be returned to the post office where it came from and have the post office who accepted it return it to the sender.
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@prinzcy (32299)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 20
That's creepy. You don't suddenly send stuff to your nemesis. That nemesis is you
If I am trying really hard to be positive, I'll just thank her in my head. But I would not use the items.
If I am not thinking positive, which is not a hard thing to do, I'll try to find a way for the stuff to be returned to her. If I can't, then I'll find a way to get rid of them in a nice way. Like donation.
Either way, I'm not going to use them at all.
If I am trying really hard to be positive, I'll just thank her in my head. But I would not use the items.
If I am not thinking positive, which is not a hard thing to do, I'll try to find a way for the stuff to be returned to her. If I can't, then I'll find a way to get rid of them in a nice way. Like donation.
Either way, I'm not going to use them at all.1 person likes this
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
18 Dec 20
Her motives are really questionable. This is the same woman who spread lies and rumors about my husband and I not only to our friends and acquaintances, but also in our work place. My husband almost got in trouble for her lies, thank goodness that our company have a very systematic way of dealing with reports like this. She called my husband's boss and told him that my husband used to beat her up and almost killed her, which, if employees in our company are convicted of a felony they are terminated. Good thing my husband's boss is a veteran of these type of drama, and handled that complaint very professionally.
I do not harbor ill feelings for her anymore, I have forgiven her but I will never forget what she did to us. And I would prefer that we don't have any contact or communication at all. Who knows what else is she going to report or do to hurt us.
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