What do you do when someone backstab at you?
By peachpurple
@peachpurple (13961)
Malaysia
December 27, 2020 12:59am CST
I am having a bad time now in the office.
One of my colleague in my office has been backstabbing me infront of my boss. The worst part is my boss believed her and confronted me for the rumor he had heard.
Whether it is true or not, is another issue. What I couldn;t understand is, what does she gain from backstabbing me?
I know what I should do now but it will be a harsh movement.
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14 responses
@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 21
You are right, she was darn jealous of my friendly relationship with my boss. She wanted to replace me and it was worthless to talk to her because behind my boss back, she was cursing and swearing, bad mouthing. She is a 2 head snake
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
27 Dec 20
That's very unfortunate. But guess, we have such people who stoop to low levels. Better to avoid them. But here you need to confront. They should not be left at times.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 21
Yes, i am avoiding her at all cost. I tried to defend myself but my boss refused to listen to my explaination. What should i do ?
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
9 Jan 21
@peachpurple That's sad. I hope things are sorted out.
@prinzcy (32299)
• Malaysia
27 Dec 20
That's because she's trying to gain favor and have been jealous of what you have or do. I would confront her and ask why she did that. I would explain to my boss with proof if that's not the case. If my boss were an idiot to continue to believe her and she still do that, I might ignore them all or find another job. I might also be wondering whether the two are together as he trust her that much to ignore everything else.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 21
I did defrnd for myself but my boss refused to listen to me, i am trying to calm my boss now
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
27 Dec 20
I would most vigorously defend myself if it were to affect my job
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 21
Yes, i agree with you but how do you defend yourself ? Any examples
@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
27 Dec 20
@peachpurple
I hate those like that. It is sad that the boss is taking her side and not believing you and the boss should not take any side. Is she up for promotion and it is between the two of you or could you be more popular than her at work and so she is jealous and wants to get back at you so makes of things about you and takes it directly to the boss.
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
3 Jan 21
@peachpurple
I am sorry, but, there are many people like that out there and it is sad you have to deal with one.
@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 21
I agree with you. She wasn't a confirm staff yet so she was trying hard to win over my boss trust by backstabbing me
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 21
Wow, isn't that dangerous? What would the boss think if i dare to record it ?
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@Cheyee (8352)
• Pakanbaru, Indonesia
5 Jan 21
@peachpurple why it would be dangerous? Your boss will know the truth?
@namiya (1721)
• Philippines
27 Dec 20
Can't understand too why some people find enjoyment in destroying someone's image. Personally I see this as signs of insecurity and envy for if you are happy and contented with what you have then why waste time finding means to maligned others? Karma is just around the corner..
@ARIES1973 (11944)
• Legaspi, Philippines
27 Dec 20
There some people who are doing that so that they would get the trust of the higher official. It would be an added points for them. Ask your boss to meet you and your colleague so you can settle the issue.
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
27 Dec 20
I report it to HR so they have something in writing and they can investigate. I will build a case against the co-worker until they have nothing but just meaningless gossip of an unhappy colleague.
Or do nothing and better myself - the best revenge is to be successful and let them to their own dirty tricks and tactics. See if this will help them in their career. Worse case scenario, I will start finding other workplaces that will value me and what I can bring to the table. Then file a hostile workplace case against the boss for allowing this to continue.
@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 21
She does not have the sense of righteous
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 21
Yes you are right, she did and it was a bad experience for me
@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 21
Yes it is sad indeed when i trusted her as a good friend but never did i exoect that in return. A frirnd in need is a friend indeed, that is simply a lame quote
