My arms are "locked"

@Giannna (1040)
Novi Sad, Serbia
January 4, 2021 10:31am CST
Just found out that one of my friends is abused by her husband.They have two kids,10 and 12.We talked.She showed me bruisisess.She do not want to leave him.She decided to stay with him no meter what.I am literaly devasteded.Sorry for spelling i am mad as hell that i can not do enyf.....thing
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@DianneN (247204)
• United States
4 Jan 21
That is awful! I worked with domestic violence cases in abused women and they eventually left their abusers. Some, almost too late. Your friend needs assistance to confront this.
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
4 Jan 21
She is very determed to stay with him...when i told her that I will call the police she was like,no i do not want to.he will be ok and it does no hurt me??????omg,omg
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@DianneN (247204)
• United States
4 Jan 21
@Giannna OMG is right! Most women are like that in the beginning. Does he drink?
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
4 Jan 21
@DianneN he started during lockdown and she is a doctor,working all the time..
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@RebeccasFarm (87118)
• United States
4 Jan 21
That happens at times the abused person will not leave so sorry you are upset, but yet, there is nothing you can do Yes, you are saying, as they say here, your hands are tied.
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• United States
4 Jan 21
@Giannna I know it is.
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
4 Jan 21
@RebeccasFarm i am soooo mad ,ahhh
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
4 Jan 21
i know.it is frustrating
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@snowy22315 (172513)
• United States
4 Jan 21
Does she have any other friends? Maybe you could do an intervention. It isn't just her she is modeling this for her children. I think you should point that out.
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@snowy22315 (172513)
• United States
4 Jan 21
@Giannna It needs to be dealt with.
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
4 Jan 21
children does not no a thing she is totally acting normal,that is what is bodering me most.she thinks that it is ok.she is medical doctor,btw
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
4 Jan 21
a lot of friends,did not tall anybody
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@paigea (36047)
• Canada
4 Jan 21
I am so sorry. That is so hard to know your friend is putting up with that.
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• United States
4 Jan 21
@Giannna Just be there she's going to need you.
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
4 Jan 21
@popciclecold i know,i am here
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
4 Jan 21
omg,so hard..
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@Hannihar (130200)
• Israel
4 Jan 21
@Giannna Maybe she is just saying she will leave him no matter what because she is afraid of him and no matter where she goes if she escapes from him that he will kill her,. It is not easy living in an abusive relationship and it is not always easy to leave it too.
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@Hannihar (130200)
• Israel
4 Jan 21
@Giannna Maybe she is afraid of him is why she does not want to leave. In abusive relationships it is hard to explain why a spouse will not leave the abuser.
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
4 Jan 21
@Hannihar she is a stuborn person she do not want to admitte to herself that mariage i faild
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
4 Jan 21
She does not want to leave him
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@CarolDM (203448)
• Nashville, Tennessee
4 Jan 21
So sorry about your friend. Nobody should be subjected to that behavior. I hope someone can intervene and help her and her children.
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
4 Jan 21
i will try to do anything possible
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@popciclecold (36123)
• United States
4 Jan 21
I feel for her, and you I hope it ends.
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
4 Jan 21
i do not know..my head hurts right now
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@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 21
She want to stay with him despite being abused? What is she thinking? No one abuses no one is a relationship. She should stand up, at least for her kids.
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@Shavkat (137311)
• Philippines
5 Jan 21
I am sorry to hear this. Is she going to report him to the auhority?
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
5 Jan 21
no she do not mind this situation...i do but she do not.she loves him
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• Philippines
5 Jan 21
It's not easy being married. i guess the pressure of marriage life finally got to him to the point that he's taking it out on his own family. He needs to change soon or he'll either loose his family and same thing but ends up in jail too.
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• Austin, Texas
4 Jan 21
I am angry too. I hate to hear about any kind of domestic abuse and I get extra infuriated when there are children involved. It doesn't happen often but there are men as well as women who suffer spousal abuse, physical and mental. What I don't understand is why they don't RUN FOR THEIR LIFE!! Because ... it is a life-threatening situation. As much as you can though, try to keep an eye on the situation. If not for your friend's sake because she has made her decision, at least think about her children's safety. Thank goodness they are 10 and 12. Lord willing they can RUN FOR THEIR LIVES!!
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
4 Jan 21
u r wright i agree but not her
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@moffittjc (119158)
• Gainesville, Florida
10 Jan 21
It is very upsetting to hear this, on account that her husband is abusing her, and also for the fact that she doesn't want to leave him. But if she stays with him, the abuse will continue.
@thelme55 (76661)
• Germany
4 Jan 21
I am so sorry about your friend. She needs social assistance. I hope she will leave her husband the sooner the better.
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@LowRiderX (22903)
• Serbia
7 Jan 21
@Giannna Usually victims of violence do not plan to leave the perpetrator, give advice but do not interfere too much, you can just turn out 'guilty' for no good reason ... because that is how it happens
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@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
7 Jan 21
yes,i know,i will talk to my shrink to spontaniosly interfere..merry christmas
@Giannna (1040)
• Novi Sad, Serbia
7 Jan 21
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@Tina30219 (81556)
• Onaway, Michigan
9 Jan 21
No you can’t it is nice you want to help her. She has to want to be helped . The one thing I worry about is the kids.
@jaboUK (64360)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 21
I'd be gone like a shot! A man who raises his hand to a woman is the lowest of the low,