Will you date your boss?

Indonesia
November 30, 2006 7:39am CST
For a better position or salary? Why or why not?
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100 responses
@cyudiw (25)
• Saudi Arabia
2 Dec 06
everybody look for possition and get big salary, but not thru this way, not fair to do this
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• Indonesia
2 Dec 06
I agree! let's just be fair, starting from ourselves.
• Singapore
30 Nov 06
i will not, it will be as if i'm betraying myself in some sort. However, if i date him first before i work for him, then that will be a different story. :0)
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• Indonesia
30 Nov 06
Yeah love somehow cant be blame..in the other hand that means he helps you with providing a better job. That's different story.
@chiranjit (195)
• India
30 Nov 06
I think it's immmoral. If I do it then I don't respect myself. Better position or salary should be decided upon to someones skills and ability and nothing else.
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@arlena040 (252)
• United States
30 Nov 06
no if i had to sleep with the boss to get to the top i would perfer staying at the bottom . i have some morals that why i would not .
• Indonesia
30 Nov 06
That's nice! I guess we're not that cheap, arent we?lol I agree with you. If I want a better position then it'll be duty to get it professionaly. Any other comments?Please share!
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@JoeyCa (1810)
• Belgium
30 Nov 06
Nope, that's immoral... some people do this but I'm definitely NOT one of them :-)) and of course I give you... a very big hug and many sweet kisses! Feel free to visit my profile or have a look at one of my discussions which might interest you....
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• Indonesia
30 Nov 06
Great! I know that's immoral, but other may think it worths the shot lol :p And thanks for the hugs lol
@lilmeowsy (685)
• Philippines
30 Nov 06
Even if I wanted to, I won't date my boss. That situation is too complicated for me. ^^
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• India
3 Dec 06
did u receive any demand from ur boss of that sort?
• Indonesia
4 Dec 06
No, of course not. There's no special background for me to start this discussion.
• Indonesia
30 Nov 06
I cant imagine that situation myself actually. That's why I made up this topic lol. Thanks for the response!
@annihilus (2181)
• Italy
10 Dec 06
nooooooooo my boss is a man! And if my boss should be a woman, if she is an interesting woman (also little beautiful!) why not? ;-) *LOL*
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• Indonesia
11 Dec 06
LOL thanx for the response!
@norteh (615)
• Netherlands
2 Dec 06
I hope not. He is male and i am also male. But when i my boss was female, i would not date her. It would be to risky for her and for me.
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• Indonesia
2 Dec 06
Lol I thought you were gonna say you'd date your female boss. Seems like you have a strong opinion. Good for you! Thanks for the response!
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• Indonesia
2 Dec 06
Lol I thought you were gonna say you'd date your female boss. Seems like you have a strong opinion. Good for you! Thanks for the response!
@unisis (1673)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 06
lupus - lupus
of course i would not dating my boss ,if i do it will be as betray myself ,for some people do this but i am definitely not one of them ,that is immoral
• Indonesia
11 Dec 06
That's very true! Thanks for the feedback!
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
if it's for a higher position or salary, no... but if it's just for friendship purposes, yes. being greedy is so wrong and unprofessional
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• Indonesia
13 Dec 06
That's absolutely right! Thanks for responding
@babykay (2131)
• Ireland
19 Dec 06
I would see nothing wrong with it in theory but would advise against it. For myself, I wouldn't be interested in having a casual relationship with my boss. Unless it was really serious I wouldn't want anything at all to develop. Can you imagine if it went wrong, having to see him every day if it all went wrong. Most guidelines for work places would say that relationships between colleagues are not encouraged, there are good reasons for this.
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• Indonesia
20 Dec 06
I absolutely agree! Imagine when you break up with him, he'll kick you outta the place right away..scary!
@michellle (160)
• China
13 Dec 06
no..i dont like him .and he is old enough to be my father
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• Indonesia
13 Dec 06
Hahaha lol that's funny! But well, thanks for the humor!
@aettouss (58)
• France
16 Dec 06
It depends on several things, may be your boss is very sexy or if you are single and just want to improve your salary, why not ? But I think it's easier for the men to do this type of thing than women.
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• Indonesia
17 Dec 06
Yeah, I've figured out about that. Most guys here in this discussions agreed to date their bosses lol. Thanks for responding!
• United States
14 Jan 07
No I would not date one of my bosses for any of those reasons, because someone who would, would be a person of low character. and would be involved for all the wrong reasons, therefore the relationship would be doomed from the start not to mention it could be playing with one of the subjects emotions. Witch is just wrong.
• Indonesia
14 Jan 07
I agree, and it is totally unprofessional.
• United States
4 Dec 06
No i dont think i would because as easy as he can give you that better salary he can take it away if something no longer works out his way .. its like he has something he can hold over your head .. not a good way to start something especially if there is no lust or love involved
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• Indonesia
4 Dec 06
Yeah, and he'll kick you outta there as soon as he doesnt need you anymore. That's tragic! I'm sure smart girls wont let that happen.
@wyykidd (1460)
• Singapore
9 Dec 06
No way! First of all, I think office romance is tough. It's worse if things do not evetually work out & the couple splits. It may be awkward to continue working there. It's worse if the person you are dating is your boss. Even if you are a really capable person & you get promoted with your own capability, there's bound to be lots of gossips about how you get to where you are and working life may become dreadful.
• Indonesia
9 Dec 06
Gosh! I cant imagine that kinda situation! Thanks for the opinion..
• Indonesia
10 Dec 06
no, because: 1. if i would, then i have to be a gay (me and my boss are both man). 2. no matter how good is the position, or how big is the salary, i don't think they can compensate my effort of being a gay. LOL
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• Indonesia
11 Dec 06
HAHAHA LOL funny, brief and meaningful! Thanks a lot!
@lovein (345)
• India
9 Dec 06
Yes- If you will marry your boss. No - If you will not marry. For Money and Power Yes- If You work for money and power. It depends why do you work for. If work for family, your actions will not match if you work for money and power. Your works will depend upon from where you have learn and what knowledge you apply on your day to day life. It lots depnds on your education, and applications of what you have learnt over a period.
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• Indonesia
9 Dec 06
It really make sense. People have different kinds of intention for work. People who work for their family will certainly NOT do that because they will only thing about their family, how to make them happy etc. While the others might think dating a boss could be a stepping stone to higher level career. Thank for the comment!
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@anirudhan (183)
• India
9 Dec 06
chiquitita why u chose such a discussion..i think u r creating a public opinion..for that? but dont u know that..no one..even if it is u..will not say it openly..right? if such a dating was morally accepted by society ..i am sure..everybody will say openly "YES"..but fortunately or unfortunately..our whole world's morality dont accetp it..so...i am sure only males will reply it positively.
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• Indonesia
9 Dec 06
OH NO, I've said my statement that I wont date my boss whatsoever in my last thread. I didnt say anything to influence people to accept that kinda situation. I want to know what people think. I like analyzing different views. But this situation does happen in real life, and I'd like to know their views. It's that simple. So what's to be upset about?
@pamknows (33)
• United States
10 Dec 06
i never dated any of my bosses and never would because i wanted to get the job or promotions on the merits of the work i did not on what i did on my knees and if i dont have self respect for myself whom else will nobody and nobody gonna have nothing hanging over my head
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• Indonesia
11 Dec 06
That's a logical explanation you have there, Pam! Thanks for the positive feedback!