What's Marriage For?
@mythociate (21437)
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
January 5, 2021 11:26am CST
I mean, I know it's "living to declare your love for one another" and all that "happy partnership"-stuff, but why do you need it 'documented'?
I think that's exactly it; when you were single & just-dating & "committed" to each other, you could still just wake up one day & decide "it's over" & just pack up your few essential belongings and never see them again. But, now that you're married ...
I mean; aren't there ever days when you look over at your spouse & think, "Oh, I'd be OUTTA HERE if we weren't contractually obligated to be together!"
https://www.freeadvice.com/legal/what-rights-and-obligations-arise-due-to-marriage/#:~:text=There%20are%20certain%20obligations%20that%20come%20with%20marriage,is%20the%20fiduciary%20duty%20owed%20to%20a%20spouse.
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
6 Jan 21
I have a couple friends (who I haven't seen in years) who live together and they're essentially 'a couple'---maybe they felt like they were "too old to get married" (and maybe they had previous families they didn't want to tie each other to).
I guess ... I guess this confirms that "love" is 'imaginary.'
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I saw STAR WARS ... a lot of it, so it must be real 
@eshtreef (180)
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5 Jan 21
You made some fair points, marriage is one way to make sure that the "everlasting" relationship will never end.. Or at least, as you said, it will be harder to end it, especially if children are born. Marriage is when you decide to spice up the relationship and raise it to another level, I think it should not be taken lightly as today newer generations do. They get married at 18 and by 20 they are already divorced with a kid.
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
16 Jan 21
Many here think of marriage as "settling down." Maybe 'thinking of it as "raising it to another level" when it's actually "settling down and resting together"' is what makes divorce so popular (i.e. people are sold on "marriage" as 'something it really isn't.')
@ShyBear88 (59303)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Jan 21
I think your idea of wha remarriage is and isnt is a little off.
Marriage isn’t a contract or obligation many couples even thought together for years are married without certificate. It’s call a collie union because your together and living together. The certificate is saying you are married to each other and nobody else but that doesn’t keep you in the marriage you can choice to leave whenever yeah you got to go through a divorce burn nobody is forcing you to marry that person that is a personal choice.
I can say there hasn’t been a morning in 10 years where I woke up and said I don’t want to do this anymore. Not saying that there won’t every be a day I think or feel that way but I haven’t.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
5 Jan 21
I think it's the difference between 'being an Independent but always voting Democrat' (in Oklahoma, where the Democratic party lets Independents vote in their primary) and 'registering Democrat'
@ShyBear88 (59303)
• Sterling, Virginia
6 Jan 21
@mythociate huh??? What the heck does politics have to do marriage. Lol.. I’m assuming your trying to make an analogy with it but it doesn’t work so well.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
6 Jan 21
@ShyBear88 You think marriage is just 'upgraded dating'? Or do you think voting is just 'a popular-opinion poll the grown-ups take before they decide who they give the job to'?
I WAS drawing an analogy but a) thought it was self-explanatory & b) had to go to a meeting before I could explain it much further.
But--going ahead and explaining--before you're married, you stay with your spouse 'the Democrats' because you want to (and if you don't want to stay with them, you're free to 'vote Republican or -Green or -whatever-other-party-you-want'); but when you 'get married' (REGISTER Democrat), you're essentially PROMISING to vote Democrat!
(I know 'not really,' but essentially 
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