Combating Writers Block, Day 3 - Talking to Teens/Kids About The Birds And The Bees

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My Fiancé’s ex called yesterday. I guess a kid showed my bonus son a certain type of video and now his curiosity has peaked. He is almost 12. I didn’t have to worry about this with my daughter because we had the talk with her at a young age, because my second husband (not her father) was lying in bed with his boxers on and she saw a certain body part and thought he was dying. (lol) So at a young age (under 5) we bought a book called “It’s not the stork” and went over everything we could. I have always been open with her about this stuff. She is now almost 14 and doesn’t seem that interested in that stuff yet, but she knows she can come to me with questions. Anyway, back to my bonus son. Now that he has seen these videos, he keeps sneaking off with his mom’s phone and she doesn’t know how to handle it. We live in a house full of people and due to my bonus son’s mom having a CPS case, they have said he can’t stay in this house, because of how many people live here. So, my fiancé goes to visit the kids (I have a bonus daughter as well) on his days off, but now our car is having issues. The ex-doesn’t know how to handle this and with our car issues and lack of funds to get it fixed or even Uber it over there, we can’t be there for him during this hard time. My fiancé isn’t the best person to talk to a kid about these issues, because even now sex is something that he doesn’t think about too much and when he was younger he was out doing stuff and not at home. I think the pandemic and lock down has made this so hard on kids. How did you talk to your kids about the birds and the bees? How do you approach a teen/preteen about these videos? I know it’s not too different from kids back in the day stealing their dads magazines, but online you have so much more you can see and come across.