Taking Care of My Mom with Dementia and Mortality

By Nate
@NateB11 (816)
United States
March 22, 2021 8:09am CST
I took care of my Mom who had dementia for nearly ten years. It was rough on me to say the least. I keep having these thoughts of death and it burns inside with dread and fear. Taking care of my Mom really brought it home. She passed away about a year or so ago. By then she was long gone. I mourned her death before she died. If you've ever had a loved one with dementia you'll know what I mean by that. Anyway, I just realize I'm thinking too much when I go through this death thought thing. Usually does the trick.
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@gamayngbaki (1601)
• Cebu, Philippines
29 Mar 21
I feel what you feel because I also took care of my mother though she did not suffer from dementia. She was confined to her bed during the last few remaining months of her existence.
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@jovy63 (19)
23 Mar 21
@NateB11. My heart goes out to you.It would have been tough on you and even tougher on her. Having been through a decade of this...how would you respond to my discussion ""We have the right to live.What we now need is the right to die"!
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@cherigucchi (15121)
• Philippines
22 Mar 21
I understand you. Although my parents did not suffer dementia, it was also a long and rough time taking care of them on their sick bed.
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@Juliaacv (54057)
• Canada
23 Mar 21
My mother has severe dementia, or Alzheimers disease. She checked herself into a rest home a couple of years ago as she knew that she was forgetting and a danger as she lived alone and still drove a car. I've grieved the loss of her many years ago, and feel that even though her heart is still beating, the 'real' her is already gone and its just a disease living on in her body. It is a very cruel illness.
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@Hannihar (130204)
• Israel
22 Mar 21
@NateB11 That must have been so hard and I bet most of the time she did not remember you and that must have been very hard too. How are you doing?
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@nela13 (59051)
• Portugal
23 Mar 21
My grandma had dementia and my mom took care of her, I know how you feel. Take care of you now, you were a good daughter. God bless you.
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