not everything is about you!

I was bullied a lot when I was at school just because I didn't fit into the mould they wanted me to fit in. I was small, I had glasses, I was a Christian. They always found something to pick on me for. I wonder what insecurities they had to make them want to do that.

Well me I am very feisty so it's not all the time it is going to be easy for me to walk away

We all have the urge to argue, especially if we feel we've been backed into a corner. Or, feel the need to defend ourselves. If we all remember to take that step back, as you've suggested. We might be better off. However, humanity isn't like that. Sometimes things just need to be allowed to happen. Especially if someone else might have struck a nerve. It's okay to aknowledge that.

I have learned this lesson recently too, you don`t know what the other person has to worry about.

It is always about them if the person is a narcissist even the bad things because then they can go on their favourite trope playing the victim. Yes I have some people that try to provoke me. Thankfully my friend will jump in so they shut up so I dont need to deal with them.

It means giving in to win like that

Hi! Welcome to mylot. I agree with you. I think that`s the best way not to get in more trouble. We should understand each other.

This is correct, though you will see many so self obsessed

Yes, it is most often not about you. They have some other problem.

I like what you had said . I can relate and this is my scenario with my neighbors for almost 4 days in a week and it was over a year . We can get through this! , we can do this :)

I read once in a very interesting book "Erroneous Zones" by Wayne Dyer. that you are the one who chooses to feel bad about what others think or say about you. So the best thing is to take from people only what makes us feel good, what nourishes us. Bad feelings must be discarded.