How do you deal with a story topper?
@Lindalahughes (220)
United Kingdom
April 15, 2021 5:32am CST
We all know someone like this. Whatever you've done, they've done it too, only MUCH bigger, better and probably more expensive too. As my cousin says "You've been to Tenerife, they've been to Elevenrife"
Someone like this is becoming quite a problem for me. Normally I would be able to ignore it, but he's just getting worse and worse. Literally everything you've done, even down to how much I've exercised, he's done more and he's done it better.
How do you deal with a person like this? Is there any way to shut them up? Or do I just have to ignore it?
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@Fa_Maverick (9458)
• Australia
15 Apr 21
Generally I just stop talking to them because they feel the need to 1-up me
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@Fa_Maverick (9458)
• Australia
15 Apr 21
@Lindalahughes myes back when my ex and I were still talking a little he kept saying his housemates would 1-up him... Mental and physical issues y'know. He wanted to leave he said it multiple times but I very much doubt he has. He could change his life but no he is comfortable being made to feel miserable.
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@Lindalahughes (220)
• United Kingdom
15 Apr 21
@Fa_Maverick I don't blame you. It's totally and completely frustrating.
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@Lindalahughes (220)
• United Kingdom
15 Apr 21
@Fa_Maverick It's so strange how people are more comfortable with being miserable than actually making a positive change. But change is scary I suppose.
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@Lindalahughes (220)
• United Kingdom
17 Apr 21
What do you do to meet so many of those people?
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@RebeccasFarm (86774)
• United States
15 Apr 21
I block them, at least on here. Braggarts do not sit well with me, plus you know half of what they say is fake.
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@Lindalahughes (220)
• United Kingdom
15 Apr 21
It's more like 80% with this guy
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
15 Apr 21
I had a colleague who was like this. We both started our job at the same time so I knew what she had to do. But she always had more work to do, her situation was more difficult than mine, yet she coped although her health was affected (as she said but no one believed her) and would have liked to be admired. I ended the relationship, not with a bang or a big discussion. I just managed not to meet her so often and our ways parted.
Another way may be to use irony but to understand this someone must be intelligent. If the show-off isn't intelligent, it doesn't work. Whenever he/she brags about something, one can praise them profusely and say that what they've done was really wonderful/exceptional/definitely better than anybody else could have done it. You can also clap the person on the shoulder and applaud.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
16 Apr 21
@Lindalahughes Good luck! Keep us informed if it worked.
You can also add that you would like to be just like the show-off! If the show-off doesn't notice that you're pulling their leg, you have at least something to enjoy for yourself. :-)
@Lindalahughes (220)
• United Kingdom
16 Apr 21
I think I'm going to try the irony next time. Good idea!
@Lindalahughes (220)
• United Kingdom
15 Apr 21
It's not jealousy, it's frustration as I know 99% of it isn't true!
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@sharonelton (25071)
• Lichfield, England
16 Apr 21
Probably just ignore it or show that you don't care.
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@Lindalahughes (220)
• United Kingdom
17 Apr 21
It's hard to ignore but I definitely don't care! 
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@sharonelton (25071)
• Lichfield, England
17 Apr 21
@Lindalahughes Good. Show them your the bigger man (or woman!)
@m_audrey6788 (58485)
• Germany
15 Apr 21
I just probably ignore that kind of person. 
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@Lindalahughes (220)
• United Kingdom
15 Apr 21
Thank you, I know I should. But he's just really getting to me!
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@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
15 Apr 21
I have some friends who are like that and its very annoying. I just dont hang out with them anymore.
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@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
15 Apr 21
@Lindalahughes That spells "trouble."
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@Lindalahughes (220)
• United Kingdom
15 Apr 21
@cherigucchi Good call. I wish that was an option for me. But as he's the husband of a friend, it's kind of a package deal. You choose her, you get him.
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@1creekgirl (40568)
• United States
16 Apr 21
Those people are extremely insecure, but it's so annoying. I just try to limit my conversations with them.
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@Lindalahughes (220)
• United Kingdom
17 Apr 21
That's a good way to deal with it.
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@cabuyogty (2323)
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18 Apr 21
I use to ignore the story tapper then i make myself calm and think of my good thoughts over and over again .
