I was sad about the truth
By Moji Arcipe
@Ding05 (116)
July 25, 2021 1:56pm CST
I really love my dad so much and I thank him for being a great dad to us, he was the best example why I got my standards so high in terms of having into a relationship with a guy. Like what we believe that there is no secrets that will never be kept forever, so as I was buying some groceries I saw my Dad hugging a woman while they were buying some groceries too. And I was really trembling at that time I do not know what to do I could not believe what I see.
So I decided to call him asking if where he went, but you know what? he just told me that he was in his friend house so that was the time my tears starts to run down to my cheeks and I didn't even finish my grocery I suddenly rushed outside then go home.
I do not know what to do , what should I do?
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
25 Jul 21
Be direct and ask him why he was hugging a woman at the market.
You'll never know the whole story unless you ask. Tell him you saw him and tell him you know he wasn't at a friends house.
Control your emotions when you ask.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
25 Jul 21
@Ding05
Not finding out the truth and instead, dwelling on what you think it COULD be, seems counter productive.
You're upset. I would be too but I'd get it settled before it festers inside you.
It's apparent that you have already convicted your father, and without even listening to his response.
He may have done as you think or maybe he hasn't.
You won't know until you ask.
His response should tell you everything.
Don't go through life treating him different because of something you think he may have done.
Resolve it now.
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@Lindcurtins (311)
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25 Jul 21
@Vikingswest1 you have said it all dear friend. Your response are on point 
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@m_audrey6788 (58485)
• Germany
25 Jul 21
I understand what you feel but you have to let him know that you saw him with a woman. 
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@kobesbuddy (74553)
• East Tawas, Michigan
28 Jul 21
My husband hugs every woman he meets, it's just how he is. I don't have a choice.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
18 Sep 21
My husband was the same. He was an Italian, Italians touch each other a lot and kiss each other three times when they meet even if the meeting lasts only five minutes. Then the same ritual when they say good-bye! Goodness!!
I'm glad we didn't live in Italy but in Germany. 
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@kobesbuddy (74553)
• East Tawas, Michigan
18 Sep 21
@MALUSE It's learned behavior, from their upbringing.
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@florelway (23134)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
25 Jul 21
You can always tell him that you personally saw him hugging a woman.
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@florelway (23134)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
26 Jul 21
@Ding05 confronting him would be very difficult, but you have to do it now. I hope you.will still respect your dad after he explains to you the situation with that woman.
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@Ding05 (116)
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26 Jul 21
@florelway thank you so much. I would follow your advice
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@C_MySide (13)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
31 Jul 21
Sweetheart, I'm sorry that your heart is sore..??
However, what they are saying is the right way to go. You need to sit down and talk to him. Remember, what you saw, and what was happening are two different things.
You're overthinkong everything right now because you're upset about "not knowing the truth",You're probably playing it over and over again, and because you are afraid of the unexpected (what he might say), your mind is probably making a thousand different scenarios.
I can say one thing though, you need to give your dad the benefit of the doubt as well. Try and understand things from his side. If he didn't tell you about this girl, there's probably a good reason for it. Maybe he was waiting to make sure that she is the right one to bring home?? Maybe he was really just trying to do it right and not hurt you..
Remember, we all crave to be with someone who appreciates and loves us. ?? Something similar happened to me, I was 14years old. Someone gave me some really good advice, so I'm going to give it to you....
If he is happy, isn't that what really matters?..
Take a breath, give him a chance to tell you his side .. then take into consideration what I've said. You don't have to respond to him immediately, but atleast you will have the information so that you can move forward and feel a little bit better??
It's going to be okay, you'll see.. trust that your dad loves you with everything, his intention wasn't to hurt you. But we all have needs and we can't control everything...
Take care xx
